That one Aussie Jay put up is hilarious! I could relate to all of it and couldn't stop laughing. Wrestling with the binder, which packer matches his personality today....LOL!!!

"Seriously, you don't know who the Cliks are?" 

That's a classic. Thanks, man! You made my morning.

And OH! The shirt pulling!! LOL!!!

crazy ** cis- says to trans.

soo..... your trans, then your into girls right??

just have to mention people who dont know im trans always ask if im gay, like the most obvious fact every.

Whilst we're on the subject of who says what to who

->-bleeped-<- ->-bleeped-<-s Say

Sorry but I fort it was funny, like the drink only spelt different....

omg that the second video is sooo true XD I do that pulling thing with my shirts all the time, because my damn breasticles keep squishing in the wrong position!

The second video made my day. I was just looking at packers and I said to myself "Okay, now, which one just screams my name?" XD The shirt pulling thing, yes, that it me.

Oh, and begging for help getting the binder off. I screamed that exact sentence when I was staying with my friend over the holidays. Yep. I'm that macho.

Out of all the tweaks, adjustments and therapies that there are in helping us find our way, possibly the best one is learning to laugh. To laugh at yourself, to laugh at adversity and to laugh at life. If all that fails a knockout punch can be useful  If you hear laughing coming from the hospice it'll be me on my death bed  wether I'm old and incontinent or not I'm determined to meet my death, pissing myself larfin. . .     

Quote from: Beverley on January 20, 2012, 09:04:43 AM
That is a thoughtful and well argued response and so much better than my standard response which is the rather blunt "That is none of your business". If I find the questioner particularly rude or intrusive (as happened once) I go with the extremely concise "F*** off". There are clearly some male traits I have not eliminated just yet.

Beverley

(Trying hard to be more ladylike, but sometimes failing very, very badly)

My point of view is that I may be the first transsexual they have met. It's like being an ambassador for your community. First impressions count. If you're a total bitch to them then it's game over, You've just colored that person's perception of us and any other transsexual from then on. If we want equal right's we need to show that we are worth knowing, That we are not the deviants, freaks and monsters that the media and politicians try to portray us as.

Quote from: Keaira on January 21, 2012, 02:56:59 AM
My point of view is that I may be the first transsexual they have met. It's like being an ambassador for your community. First impressions count. If you're a total bitch to them then it's game over, You've just colored that person's perception of us and any other transsexual from then on. If we want equal right's we need to show that we are worth knowing, That we are not the deviants, freaks and monsters that the media and politicians try to portray us as.

So when somebody asks "Can I see it" with "it" being my genitals I would say "yes, good sir! I will gladly flaunt my tallywhacker for you."

Really, when it comes down to it...when I get asked offensive questions I usually don't have the ability to answer "politely" and "be nice."

People (for some weird reason) don't always realise without prompting that they're being offensive. So if you can hold back your own offendedness, it's worth pointing out first that what they've said is quite inappropriate, and why - because they may genuinely have just not thought it through. I get this a lot, people are so fascinated it overrides their sense of whether what they're asking is invasive, and they just need to be gently reminded, and are usually embarrassed and apologetic once they realise.

Of course, if they then continue to be offensive instead, you know they're doing it on purpose, and you can then slap them across the face with a really big fish, or whatever.

Quote from: Nygeel on January 21, 2012, 07:00:39 AM
So when somebody asks "Can I see it" with "it" being my genitals I would say "yes, good sir! I will gladly flaunt my tallywhacker for you."

Really, when it comes down to it...when I get asked offensive questions I usually don't have the ability to answer "politely" and "be nice."

lol. I'm not advocating a little 'show and tell', although your post did conjure up some amusing scenarios for me, like a headline in a newspaper that read's:

Pervert beaten with male transsexual's billy-club

But, some people don't have the patience I have. And for me it's been more of a test than anything. I just know that, for the most part, people are really curious and just don't have the guts to read up on what Transsexuality is and how much work goes into transition.

I think Padma is right...people just have no idea when they're being rude, and very few people have a good sense of boundaries. My view is, if you respond politely but firmly, people who are reasonable will respect your wishes. Those who don't aren't worth your time.

Quote from: Padma on January 21, 2012, 07:36:31 AM
People (for some weird reason) don't always realise without prompting that they're being offensive. So if you can hold back your own offendedness, it's worth pointing out first that what they've said is quite inappropriate, and why - because they may genuinely have just not thought it through.

This is generally the way I see things. If anything offensive is said, I try to apply the "name it, claim it, stop it" tool, which is basically an outline of what Padma said. It takes time and practice but I find it is worth the extra bit of effort.

Of course, if someone is being offensive on purpose or the behavior continues then that is a different story. If I've done my part by being polite and educational then that is that. If they choose to be ignorant or offensive then remove yourself from the situation.

Quote from: Aussie Jay on January 19, 2012, 10:14:23 PM
That was hilarious!! I had a little giggle at this guy too!!

I laughed so hard at the shirt pulling thing. I do that all the time. as well as asking if I look flat.

Hmm I sure hope I haven't said any of those things.  I wonder though.  I never think if someone is post op or not.  To me it's irrelevant. If you are on hormones it affects your sexual organs too.  It's up and down the scale in different sizes and shapes.  Why would someone want to know that.  What difference does it make?  That's like asking a guy  "how big is your penis?"

its so akward when guys ask me about my penis size..
I dont really know what to tell them since it might just be 1 inch if im lucky and hard.

XD

I haven't been asked "the surgery" question....but my friend did ask me if I'd grow a dick. We kinda do, but not full-blown like she was thinking. If only it were that easy 

For the record, that was by far the stupidest question a 21 year old college graduate could have asked.

When guys say that, it must be really tempting to tell them you're looking for a donor .

Quote from: Padma on January 23, 2012, 05:01:09 PM
When guys say that, it must be really tempting to tell them you're looking for a donor .

you could make a shop, like when your selling shoes,
you order them after size, colour and type.

should be rather populær in no time.

Agh! I love Chase!
He's so amazing, and I love that video,
I say that ->-bleeped-<- all the time xDD

I'm now ridiculously conscious of how often I do the shirt pulling thing.