Yes, it's that fooking awesome (NOT!!!) time of the month 

I was looking for ways to reduce the flow (even though I take tablets to reduce it, i would like toreduce even further)  on google and came across this 'celebratingmenstruation' tumblr thing. Now to say this triggered my dysphoria wouldn't even describe it. I just can't comprehend how people can actually enjoy periods and be ok with it happening.

I dunno why I'mmaking this thread, just feeling really weird that I have sucha  strong repulsion to somehting that other people seem to really like?

urghh

Yep. Strange, isn't it? My mother marked on the calendar when I had my first one. I don't understand it at all. But apparently some women do think it is something to celebrate. One woman in a class of mine made an annoucement that her daughter started and she was going to throw her a party.

Edit: I shouldn't say 'strange' so much as 'alien to me'. I have heard some women talk positively about it. I am certainly not the best person to talk to about celebrating something I loath to admit I experience.

My all of the females in the family celebrated when I got mine and even a family friend.  I pretended to be happy but here is how I read it:

"Congrats!  Now your dysphoria will get even worse as you have to content with feeling weak and bleeding at the same time."


I hate those visits from Aunt Flow.  I'm going to beat her down one day and kick her behind to the curve one day with a total hysterectomy because she has overstayed her welcome for the longest now.

Navajos have a huge four day long celebration when a girl gets her first period.  She dresses in traditional clothing and lives in a hogan and eats a traditional cake baked in the ground and they have a huge party.  We get girls missing school for it all the time.  They're always so proud and happy, but I would have been mortified at that age with the whole school and community knowing I had my period.  But different cultures...

read somewhere that in Japan there given red bean rice for the first one

The only thing I'm truly dysphoric about is my chest. I hate my excessively large breasts. But I try to think of the future without them!

But yeah, think about it. It's a symbol that a girl is now a "woman". I can understand why many would be excited about it. It's sort of like when guys get that first chest hair or something lol a right of passage or something.

I do get what you're saying though. Periods suck and they are painful! Can't wait to be on T and be rid of it!

My feminist mother was like that when my sister started.  Hence I tried to hide it when I got mine - worked for a while, but got found out eventually. Much "celebrating" ensued.

I'd probably commit suicide if my family had celebrated my first. I'm serious too. i couldn't handle that, dysphoria wise. The first bra experience was bad enough.

I dunno though, if an adult woman can find a reason to be happy about her period more power to her I suppose.

I think it's a fertility thing. I remember when my mom found out about mine. She mourned for days xD. I don't know what I would've done if I had to go through that celebration stuff. I know I would've been humiliated, but cake tends to make everything better :d. Just as long as it wasn't blood red or shaped in some sort of ridiculous symbolic way @_@.

Quote from: Caseyyy on January 31, 2012, 09:50:44 PM
I'd probably commit suicide if my family had celebrated my first. I'm serious too. i couldn't handle that, dysphoria wise. The first bra experience was bad enough.

I dunno though, if an adult woman can find a reason to be happy about her period more power to her I suppose.

I remember the bra thing grrrr.  A friend of the family would tease me all the time and call them "frick and frack" and my sisters would grab at my boobs and say "wow your boobs are huge" or something similar like that.  Gosh my dysphoria shot up like crazy.  Damn jigglypuffs.

At any rate the only good thing I can find about my period is the ability to manipulate my family.  Usually I can put off doing chores or whatnot by just saying it's that time of the month or it gives me a tiny bit of an excuse to throw my rage out and they dismiss it as my period.  Don't get me wrong I would love to not have Aunt Flow and do what I have to do but now it just gives me a reason to slack off even more than usual.....for me at least.

@Nick I can't wait to start T one day too to surpress it.

Quote from: Malachite on January 31, 2012, 10:48:11 PM
Damn jigglypuffs.

lmao  Man that just cracks me up...

Things are a tad different from my end. As an MtF I knew I'd never have that problem. or so I thought. I get the bloating, cramping, kind of short tempered and bitchy too. The only thing I am happy about is I don't bleed every month. Because as a pre-op, there is no way I can stuff a tampon in there. it would be like trying to shove a golf ball through a straw. But since I have no idea why I am getting them in the first place, I am confused as heck about it.

The lighter side of it is of course, I know how it feels. And after only 11 months, I'm over that 'new car smell', so to speak. Thank God for Pamprin! I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with them. And my first one was not celebrated, it was kind of cursed at because it felt like a week long stomach ache that was lower than any belly ache I'd had and Tums had no effect at all on it. I had thought it was my body getting used to the hormones and spiro.  Or something I ate...

So I guess, be careful of what you wish for...

I remember hearing a group of girls saying how excited they were to get it and how it made them feel womanly.


When I got mine my mom told be I had to be careful now so I don't get pregnant. I was 11.
I know she had me in her teens, but still. I hope she knows most 11 year old aren't having sex.

I've never even met a female that wanted to celebrate it. I'm stealth, so girls often yell at me that I have no idea what they go through and try to make me feel sympathy for them(which I do) by using guilt and scare tactics.

And Sharky lol... actually I think the statistics now are OVER 1 out of every 10 kids have vaginal sex before they're even 12.

Quote from: stiltsk on February 01, 2012, 01:35:05 AM
And Sharky lol... actually I think the statistics now are OVER 1 out of every 10 kids have vaginal sex before they're even 12.

Horrifying.

I've analysed why it made me freak out last night seeing that stuff and it may be because everyone uses female words and pronouns when discussing it I take it personally as if they're calling me a woman or a girl and I can't stand that. (I don't mean you guys, just the general population)

I'm so pathetic these days 

That is horrifying!

This may not equate to first periods, but I was sitting in my bedroom when I was about 10-11 whatever. Wearing my sisters clothes and feeling good. I knew nothing about sex (I'm old). I started to play with my hair and curl it etc, so I looked like me., trying make up, what we do!

I had an orgasm.

My dad had told me that boys had white stuff come out of their penises, and it was normal. I didn't know what he meant. My sister had explained periods to me and I had questioned my mother why mine hadn't started.

When I 'orgasmed' it was the most awful day.

I cried.

I honestly thought I was a girl and god would correct it.

No one should tell a 11yr old  that she is a boy and its task is to be the man and father children. I wanted to have children. I pushed my dolly in the pram.


Sorry, I'm coming out of a black one and I need to keep going.

Hugs

Cindy

I'm going to leave it as I have had a massive GID attack and I do not want to re-trigger.

Quote from: Cindy James on February 01, 2012, 03:50:56 AM
That is horrifying!

This may not equate to first periods, but I was sitting in my bedroom when I was about 10-11 whatever. Wearing my sisters clothes and feeling good. I knew nothing about sex (I'm old). I started to play with my hair and curl it etc, so I looked like me., trying make up, what we do!

I had an orgasm.

My dad had told me that boys had white stuff come out of their penises, and it was normal. I didn't know what he meant. My sister had explained periods to me and I had questioned my mother why mine hadn't started.

When I 'orgasmed' it was the most awful day.

I cried.

I honestly thought I was a girl and god would correct it.

No one should tell a 11yr old  that she is a boy and its task is to be the man and father children. I wanted to have children. I pushed my dolly in the pram.


Sorry, I'm coming out of a black one and I need to keep going.

Hugs

Cindy

I'm going to leave it as I have had a massive GID attack and I do not want to re-trigger.

oh dear I'm sorry I re-ignited GID for you   

Periods are horrible, I hate when my mtf friends talk about how they wish they could have it.. it makes no sense from my view,
its a week in illness, pain, blood, lots of clearning, no swimming, no chokolate and no sex..

only positive thing about is that your not pregnant, but on the other way you have it cause you CAN get pregnent, so its not really a positive thing anyway, just the only thing I could think about... -__-

When I was in 5th grade my best friend (bigger tomboy than I was even) and I were excited to get our periods for about a day.  We got a "survival kit" from school with all the necessary supplies and then I slept over her house that night and we put the pads in our underwear to "practice".  I personally felt like I was wearing a diaper and didn't like it.  The night I actually got my first period in 7th grade was a bit of a mixed bag.  For some reason the day or two before I get my period I become really energetic and outgoing (I was really quiet as a kid) and I loved that part, but when I saw the actual fluid I cried.  It was more a feeling of "I have to put up with this once a month for the next forty years!?"  To a 12-year-old that prospect was completely overwhelming.  I could wait until menopause already.  Luckily when I was in college I got PCOS and my period started getting so irregular sometimes I could go for six or seven months without it.  I can't wait to start T and be done with it forever.