Who makes my arrangements after I'm gone!
Posted on February 1, 2012 by Lillith Ponticelli

http://netahealth.org/blog/?cat=3

I recently sat down and had coffee with a funeral director.  Our discussion was specifically, who has the legal rights to present the final arrangements for someone Transgender after they pass on.  Obviously, after you pass on, you really don't have a voice in your wishes being carried out.  I proposed a few scenarios to the discussion.

    There is a Transsexual woman who passed on and she is pre-op and lived full time in her gender.  Her family didn't "accept" (I don't like the word accept because it implies judgment.)  the changes the woman made for self congruency.  Does the funeral director follow the family's decision to present the woman as a man?
    The Transsexual woman had her gender marker changed to F on her birth certificate and she was still pre-op.  Does the funeral director follow the anatomy or the documentation?

Good thing - she will only have a giggle out it all 'up there' - whilst the survivors be bickering about how to handle it all...

Just my notion...
Axélle