So, ah, I am hypersexual, which complicates my life a bit as I'm not a stud and I don't have a ton of actual free time. I look at people a lot because I like bodies, even lots and lots of bodies that aren't like what gets on magazine covers. I never had television so maybe I escaped some of the cultural sex programming. Humans are pretty cool.

But more often I stare at people out of curiosity. I take careful mental notes when I see a guy I want to look like. Same for a guy I really hope I don't look like, or a girl who presents like me but is really a butch dyke. I'm just figuring things out.

Sometimes I stare at teenagers or kids because I'm comparing them to my own, and trying to figure out what clothes my daughter might like, or at least generally what's in style these days.

I'm learning to be more careful. Looking too long or too closely gets me different reactions than it used to.

Anybody else care to share their experiences with this?

Hahah omg yess. I stare and compare so much more than I used to. But I don't check people out in a sexual way.

I do it a lot when I have sunglasses on I'll admit, I don't like to do it but I can't help it. I am always comparing my body to other people's.

I'm about to go visit a friend across the river. On saturday night I find I can look longer at some people and less at others, and people's reactions to my eyes are far less predictable. Yay. This is the closest I come to adventure these days. XD

Yup i can totally identify with this, constantly taking notes on these strange creatures called human beings in the hope that one day i can blend into their society

I will say this though: You ARE a stud! You smexy beast you!

<Staring at Felix> Hugs, Devlyn

Yep.

And I am so much on the same wavelength as you on this one as well.

I find myself looking at women because I can imagine looking like them. But too often, it gets misunderstood. I often dread to imagine what might happen if they knew what I'm really thinking.

Like Devlyn, I could stare at you as well.

i used to stare at people all the time, but it was out of insecurity and paranoia.  my confidence is so high now that i barely look at anyone while out and about... i've kinda gone from self-conscious to self-obsessed.... but i like it. 

I'm an avid people watcher. I catch other people watching me too, and I have learned that it can be done in a pleasant appraising manner without invading the other person's privacy and causing them to get all creeped out. I've been on the receiving end of that sort of behavior, usually it's a male and I can almost read their mind, as if they are thinking [WTF is that, is it male or a female?] I'm rather good at deflecting their gaze when that happens by saying, [WTF you looking at?] They invariably get embarrassed and scurry away.

People watching can be very instructive, there is a lot to be learned by watching body language and styles of dress. Starbucks is a prime place for this, I try to avoid eye contact because it's the initial event which oftentimes is followed by a smile which on occasions has led to a conversation and even an unwanted relationship. Since I'm married I owe it to the S.O. not to allow it to go there. Just the same if you want to learn more about people, gender dynamics and dress modes that you might wish to emulate, and hour of people watching a day is a good exercise.

I love people watching.  I try not to stare though.  I don't like to make anyone feel uncomfortable.  Funny thing is when I'm staring at a woman she's probably thinking I'm lusting for her when I'm likely just thinking how much I love her shoes or the way she wears her hair.

I'm lucky to work in a place were people show up to see and be seen, and dress accordingly.  So it's always OK to watch.

I like to stare at people a lot and try to find their flaws so I feel much better about myself.  I also stare at men to imagine what their genitals would look like.  I'm always imagining men naked without sexual purpose but to think about what my stuff would look like had I been born with it.  Horrible I know.

Quote from: JulieC. on February 05, 2012, 02:18:31 PM
I'm likely just thinking how much I love her shoes or the way she wears her hair.

I am so with you sister! 

Quote from: Malachite on February 05, 2012, 06:10:40 PM
I'm always imagining men naked without sexual purpose but to think about what my stuff would look like had I been born with it.  Horrible I know.

One of the women I used to work with did that after work at the local watering hole. She'd say, "Look at the bulge in that guy's pants!" I'd think, "What's with that?" because usually a woman would say this guy or that guy had a nice looking butt. Not so horrible, now I get it!

Hey Felix

Yep!  I stare at people because I'm always surprised at what they do next.  I don't read body language so I'm usually baffled.  And for as long as I can remember I've evaluated the way they dress, walk, stand, faces they pull ... the list is probably huge.

People watching is a favorite pasttime for me. I stare at women because i'm looking at what they are wearing, how they carry themselves, and the details like hair and nails to pick up tips on how things are done in their world.

I've been on low dose HRT for about a year now for my dysphoria and lately i've been catching people staring at me too. Women tend to be more chatty with me now, and I caught one guy checking out my chest one day when i was wearing a thin t-shirt (note to self: can't wear those anymore).