Quote from: Maya Zimmerman on February 05, 2012, 11:48:38 AM
pretty - You can't be surprised that I would be offended at your remark, which was directed quite specifically at me, Axelle, and Haven (if only in her own desires). You questioned my respect for my gender identity and implied that I didn't consider the well-being of my child. As someone trans, you should appreciate how hurtful it is for someone to consider your gender identity some silly whim. I can't fault you for thinking you know how to raise kids better than actual parents. Most people who don't have kids think the same way. Let me tell you, it's the most nerve-wracking thing in the world, to be a parent, to be constantly worried that you're not doing good enough, or that you'll make a mistake, you'll turn away for a second, and something will go wrong, or that something completely outside of your control will take this wonderful, innocent person away from you. Only more upsetting is your implication that my son, who I love dearly, should never have been born because you consider his circumstances (which you know nothing about) too unfortunate for anyone to deserve.
You really need to lighten up and stop expecting life to conform exactly to your own ideals. Those who know me know how I appreciate logic and formulating a strategy in advance, but who with a heart that pumps warm blood could meet love at the toes, match sparks in the space between two pairs of eyes, and turn away, saying that love is not worth the pain that it could bring to those involved? Love and life are not so simple that statistics can claim them "good" or "bad" often enough to warrant their dismissal.
Oh, and if anyone gets to be self-righteous about "a whole new life that is yours to make or break", perhaps it would be significantly more the right of one who's anxiously awaiting the results of her child's testing for advanced placement in school than someone whose experience with parenthood is limited to being the child.
It wasn't directed at any specific person... I'm sorry but I haven't been around lately and I can't really say I recognize your username
I don't know... do what you want. I didn't say I could parent better, I said I don't think I could parent well so I'm never going to have kids
It's hard to post on these forums though, everyone gets so angry about everything that's not at least blatantly validating. It's actually perfectly normal for people to have different opinions... not to get off topic again. The OP is gonna get mad at me
