Between 3 and 5 years ago, my mother insisted that she be the one to tell one of my brother's.
When I asked her how he had reacted when she told him, she said, and I fuggin' quote,
"He said, "I never want to see that ->-bleeped-<-got again!"." Now I find out she never told him and
she left instructions with my youngest brother that he was not to be told until after her death.