Sorry, Felix!  The slang for service station - it just becomes second nature lol

Quote from: Kreuzfidel on February 14, 2012, 12:18:35 AM
Sorry, Felix!  The slang for service station - it just becomes second nature lol

Thank you I actually love hearing these kinds of cultural nuances. I just feel the need to demonstrate either what I learned or the fact that I'm clueless.

Quote from: meh on February 12, 2012, 12:07:55 AM
I also get a lot of "Are you a boy or a girl?".

The closest I have gotten to this was about 7 months on t, in a situation where everyone was extremely drunk, when a guy I'd just met said something like, "so...are you a guy, or are you male?" Which was kind of hilarious rather than annoying considering how that came out.

Lol at the 'you just can't tell.' Sounds like it comes from a very simple mind. It's not like gender variance or different presentations are anything new.

I'm told I sound like a teenage boy when I talk. Thankfully I don't look like a teenage boy anymore but I could see how some people could place you in that category, Dominick. I've always looked younger than I am though. A lot of people I meet now think I'm somewhere in the 20's. In reality I'm quickly approaching 40. My parents both look 10-20 years younger than they are so for me I think genes comes into play too.

Sometimes I can gauge whether someone is taking me for male or female in a situation where ID might be required to purchase something. Usually I'm not carded, but I think because the clerk might guess female. If they guess male, they often ask for my ID. I was buying some cigars earlier and it was raining so I had the hood of my sweatshirt on and the lady asked to see my ID.

Only if I'm in a "off" mood or having a bad day do I get miffed about the misgendered thing. I mean I kind of walk a very androgynous line anyway, so it's to be expected. Sometimes I kind of enjoy tripping people up a bit ... making them question themselves in their minds, "is that a guy or a girl?"

Heh. I was 46, a few months into transition, and just at the tail end of my androgynous phase when I went to a liquor store I hadn't been to before. The guy carded me, and I reluctantly relinquished my ID, which had a male name but a female marker. He looked at the ID and back at me and back at the ID and back at me...didn't look at all happy but let me buy the booze. But I felt so conspicuous that I tried a different store the next time.

I figure he read me as male at first and then saw my age or the F (or both) and was trying to figure me out. Ugh. I hate feeling like a bug under glass.

I know that I've been lucky because that andro phase didn't last for very long after I started T, but I actually think that middle age has helped me to "pass" better. I might not have looked my age, but I was no longer a fresh-faced youth, either. A few grey hairs and a few character lines can go a long way toward making a newly transitioned guy look more manly. Of course, there are too many little factors to fully account for, and they all add up in different ways and vary from guy to guy. It's all rather mysterious.