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Did your feminine looks discourage you?

Started by Apollo, February 15, 2012, 11:24:56 PM

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Dominick_81

Quote from: Apollo on February 15, 2012, 11:24:56 PM
Um, not sure on that wording there... but I've been debating surgery and being trans for the longest time... purely over how I look as a female.

All through out high school, I felt like I'd be happier as a guy, but... I kinda missed my chance to grow? I'm 4'10" with a round face and a soft, upturned nose... I'm far from masculine... and it scares me from wanting to try for T or top surgery or anything because.. what if I don't look like I expected? What if I stay this feminine looking forever?

I don't know if this seems like a silly or dumb thing to worry about.... but I just want to be happy, and I'm beginning to doubt my ability to be.

Were the same height.  Like arch said, height can work against you but not forever. I'm wondering if that is why I'm getting mis-gendered so much when I'm not wearing a hat...? Still not sure of the reason, but that could be a possibility.

I've seen guys who look like girls and then they take T and a few months to a year later they look totally male.
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Apollo

I just wanted to again thank you guys for the words of encouragement! I have to admit, this post was mostly due to an off day, but it's really going to help keep off days from happening, I feel!

And Dominick, I've noticed that you've been complaining about being mis-gendered a lot... which I don't understand if I'm right that your picture is one of you? I would've never guessed, you're very handsome so it seems odd that you'd be mis-gendered so often.
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Arch

Quote from: Apollo on February 16, 2012, 12:42:07 PM
And Dominick, I've noticed that you've been complaining about being mis-gendered a lot... which I don't understand if I'm right that your picture is one of you? I would've never guessed, you're very handsome so it seems odd that you'd be mis-gendered so often.

I don't think that's a picture of him, but he has posted face pics in other threads. In stills, he looks exactly like a teenage boy. He has great features. So it has to be something else or a combination of other little factors that just add up and obscure the truth. I think it's just a matter of time before the misgendering goes away.

Apollo, do you have access to a trans support group or anything like that? Some guys don't like them, but it can be a lifesaver to have one place you can go where they call you by the right name and pronoun, no matter how you look at the moment.
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Apollo

Quote from: Arch on February 16, 2012, 12:54:02 PM
I don't think that's a picture of him, but he has posted face pics in other threads. In stills, he looks exactly like a teenage boy. He has great features. So it has to be something else or a combination of other little factors that just add up and obscure the truth. I think it's just a matter of time before the misgendering goes away.

Apollo, do you have access to a trans support group or anything like that? Some guys don't like them, but it can be a lifesaver to have one place you can go where they call you by the right name and pronoun, no matter how you look at the moment.

All right, I'm taking word for it. I've lurked a bit and seen people baffled by his being mis-gendered, for some reason I can't really see posted pictures. Not sure why that is. Possibly because of my post count? Or because my computer is silly.

And I don't really. I wouldn't mind checking some out, but I haven't really seen anything about any being in the area.
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Dominick_81

@Apollo: Yeah, sadly the avatar pic is not me. It's Ashton Kutcher. Though I wish it was me, I'd have no problem getting girls if I looked like him.

I've taken my pics down. I don't like to keep them up for very long, I get paranoid.


Quote from: Arch on February 16, 2012, 12:54:02 PM
I don't think that's a picture of him, but he has posted face pics in other threads. In stills, he looks exactly like a teenage boy. He has great features. So it has to be something else or a combination of other little factors that just add up and obscure the truth. I think it's just a matter of time before the misgendering goes away.

Thanks arch. I hope the mis-gendering goes away soon.

I know it's been said before by people, but in pics you can make yourself look a certain way, but in real life people don't look the same as they do in their pictures. Pictures are so deceiving.
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