Hi Shelley,
that's also a good point, about people not choosing to live like this... but since we have no choice, we have to create a space for ourselves in this world... third, fourth, n-th... And I've seen that many of us here have come up with great, creative, brave solutions beyond the binary.
still looking for mine... for now it's just "undecided" ...

Love,
Alex/Lisette/unicorn