I'm not exactly new (joined...last october?) but I was having too great of a time diving into FTM forums to notice this introductions page....so I shall now formally introduce myself =)

I am a pre-op FTM and I just "came out" to my brother 15 minutes ago. It was a bag of mixed emotions. He told me that he is morally against what I'm suggesting, but that I have rights and he can't stop me. So I'm just sitting here surfing forums at susans (which always makes me feel better) to relieve myself of that awkward conversation.

I plan on telling my mom soon, but she is 10 times harder than my brother and, judging from my brother's reaction, she will not take it well...I just hope I still have a roof to sleep under by the end of this. Some of you may suggest not telling my mother, but I have to. I can't pretend to be a girl any longer.

I know I'm singing to the choir right now, so I will end my introduction by thanking you for taking the time to read this! =)

Hi 'shorty'
Well then, a somewhat belated welcome to Susan's. Good to see you moving on in life. At least your brother relatively accomodating with your preferred outlook on life. Maybe before you tell your Mum, you may need to arrange alternative accomodation and life support systems in place. If it comes to that, maybe the forced seperation will give your Mum a bit of thinking space to work through this revelation. Just remember, you've had a lot more time to process your feelings compared to your family.

Whichever way it goes, I sincerely hope it works to your benefit. By now you no doubt have a few close friends here that  can support and assist you through these times. If not, well the rest of us are still here for you. Do you have a good TG therapist on hand?

Look forward to hearing more frrom you in the time to come, in the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Hi

Yep talking to the converted but it still helps. It is your life and your decisions. Your bother's moral opinions are his and his alone. Funny how these opinions can change when they are in a dilemma. Hope it goes OK with your mother. Stand your ground.

Hugs

Cindy

Another belated hello from an Aussie.
Eventually your brother will realise you have actually done the moral thing by refusing to live a lie any longer.  Have you asked him whether he would feel the same if you needed somebody else's heart to stay alive?  It's a medical problem, with a medical answer.  Morality doesn't really enter into it.
Have a happy transition, and hope to hear more from you.

Karen.

Hi Bballshorty, it's never too late to make an entrance! If you're just finding the introductions now, wait until you find the lounge! And the bowling alley. See you around, hugs, Devlyn

Welcome to the site.

thanks! =)
@catherine no, I don't have a TG therapist..is there a thread about where to find one?

There's a bowling alley?

Quote from: bballshorty on March 03, 2012, 07:39:42 PM
thanks! =)
@catherine no, I don't have a TG therapist..is there a thread about where to find one?

Hi 'shorty'
You might like to try

https://www.susans.org/Transitioning/Therapists/

If that doesn't find you one, let us know.

Be safe, well and happy

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Welcome. Yeah I was a little surprised to see this in the introductions section. You've been hanging around and are a good addition to the site.

Interesting reaction from your brother. My dad reacted sorta like that. Acceptance with caveats is better than none, though. I hope your coming out and transition continues to be safe.

Yeah, but I'm from New England, so it's candlepin bowling! Hug, Devlyn

Quote from: Felix on March 03, 2012, 08:00:14 PM
Welcome. Yeah I was a little surprised to see this in the introductions section. You've been hanging around and are a good addition to the site.

Interesting reaction from your brother. My dad reacted sorta like that. Acceptance with caveats is better than none, though. I hope your coming out and transition continues to be safe.

thanks felix! My posts have been pretty sporadic so I'm surprised you recognized me =P


and thanks for the link catherine! Although...I'm canadian and out of the two canadian links I saw, one was in a diff province and the other site was in japanese @.@ actually now that I think of it, I think I've seen a link for therapists in canada...does anyone know who I can contact to get that on the list? (if I find that link)

Hi 'shorty'

Any of these help at all?
Canada
Note: As of August 11, 2001, in Vancouver it is mandatory to dial 604 even if it's a local call.

The 519
519 Church Street
Toronto, ON
M4Y 2C9
Canada
416 392 6874
Fax: 416 392 0519
E-mail: info@the519.org
Web site: http://www.the519.org/
Free counseling, but their wait list is long. They also have tons of Trans programs.

Clarke Institute Gender Identity Clinic NOT RECOMMENDED Read links first On Clarke Institute. Reparative therapy is used and HBIGDA Standards of Care are not followed.

Background: The Clarke Institute Kenneth J. Zucker on transsexualism
Clarke Institute of Psychiatry
250 College Street
Toronto, Ontario
Canada M5T 1R8
(416) 979-2221, ext. 2339

Jamie Powers, M.Ed., M.A., R.C.C.
Sexual Minorities Therapist
5th Floor
575 W. 8th Avenue
Vancouver, BC
Canada V5X 1C6
(604) 737-8482

Sherbournce Health Centre
333 Sherbourne Street
Toronto, Ontario
M5A 2S5
416 324 4180
Fax: 416 324 4188
E-mail: info@sherbourne.on.ca
Web site: http://www.sherbourne.on.ca/
Purportedly the easiest and fastest way to access hormones in the Toronto area. See the Web site, call, or E-mail for more info.

Vancouver General Hospital
Centre for Sexuality, Gender Identity and Reproductive Health
Echelon 5th floor, 855 West 12th Ave. Vancouver, BC
Canada V5Z 1M9
(604) 875-8282

Melady Preece, Ph.D.
Registered Psychologist
675 W. Hastings Street
Vancouver, BC. V6B 1N9
Phone : (604) 685-5961
Fax : (604) 685-5968
Mobile : (604) 831-4444
Email : meladypreece@gmail.com
Website : http://www.drmeladypreece.com
"I do hormone assessments and refer people to an endocrinologist for hormone therapy. I also have videoconferencing equipment in my office and can see people all over British Columbia through hospital-based telehealth services

omg yes! thank you so much catherine! you just made my day =) where was this info from?

oh yea, if there are any admin looking at this, I want to suggest adding the function of being able to make personal notes/memos that we can access through our profile or something.

My reason:
Due to the sensitivity of the stuff we talk about here and the fact that some of our parents/other ppl may snoop around on our laptops/computers, I don't feel safe saving important info on my computer, but I don't want to lose it and never find it again when I need it. (if there is already a similar function, please tell me =P)

Quote from: bballshorty on March 03, 2012, 10:09:29 PM
Due to the sensitivity of the stuff we talk about here and the fact that some of our parents/other ppl may snoop around on our laptops/computers, I don't feel safe saving important info on my computer, but I don't want to lose it and never find it again when I need it. (if there is already a similar function, please tell me =P)

Can you just post it on a thread?   Your profile will always have a link to the threads you start so you could just find it that way.  And anything you find may help others so if you post it in a thread they can benefit too.

Quote from: bballshorty on March 03, 2012, 09:53:22 PM
omg yes! thank you so much catherine! you just made my day =) where was this info from?

Hi 'shorty'
It is indeed a privilage to assist. I'm not sure how plagiarism is viewed here. I'll PM you.

Quoteoh yea, if there are any admin looking at this, I want to suggest adding the function of being able to make personal notes/memos that we can access through our profile or something.

My reason:
Due to the sensitivity of the stuff we talk about here and the fact that some of our parents/other ppl may snoop around on our laptops/computers, I don't feel safe saving important info on my computer, but I don't want to lose it and never find it again when I need it. (if there is already a similar function, please tell me =P)

Not sure if you are a PC or Mac person. But if you are a PC person, you can create 'hidden' folders on your drive. You can also password protect MS Word documents, and still leave there file names visible. Maybe some one from the Mac world can make appropriate suggestions. Otherwise if you're prepared to risk it, there are 'cloud' agents out there (Google, MS, Apple) that can store your sensitive material. I personally don't like the possibility of those services excluding or losing your stuff for no reason.

Hope this helps.
Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Thanks for all the useful help =) You guys and gals have been awesome!