Hi Clare,
Another warm Aussie welcome to Susan's. I'm so pleased you have eventually started on the road to discovery, of who you really are. That journey can relieve you of so much pressure, it's almost indescribable, let alone finding the absolutely awesome experiences and feelings that constantly reveal themselves to you.
I'm so pleased your wife is behind you. There is a Sigfinicant Others sections here that may be of interest to her. No doubt she has just as many questions, if not more than you, that may be answered for her there. At least she would find a tremendous support from others in a similar situation.
My guess is, if you are looking at taking this journey any further, finding a good therapist who is conversant with TG matters would be a substantial help to you both. Looking to hear more of you in the time to come. In the meantime, be safe, well and happy.
Lotsa huggs
Catherine
(Oh pardon. New edict from the GodMother. NSW Branch member of the Aussie Mafia Girls Pack reporting)