Okay, this may sound like an odd topic, especially when you consider that I am an androgyne seeking out an answer for a question from a transgirl.

My girlfriend is an XY transgendered lesbian.  She's not fully out of the closet yet.  She sometimes feels like she is the only lesbian on the planet that can get her girlfriend pregnant. 

I told her that this isn't true, but I fear that my word is not enough.  I'm hoping that if I can get some other lesbians in this situation to say "You're not alone" then it will prove it to her and it might help her not to feel so down and isolated.

So, odd as this might sound, if there are any transgirls here who have operational XY parts but who like girls, could you just drop a line and say hi?  She's especially concerned that her XY parts keep her from being a "real woman."

Tay and Girlfriend,
    Hi. I am Kim and I am IS. I know you said TS gals but I thought I may help here since I have the majority of my organs as female but because of one rediculous male organ I suppose I could use as a coat rack I was raised male and just recently discovered who I am. As I said I have an ovary, a uterus, breasts, a partial vagina etc and I love women. As a matter of fact I am happily married to a beautiful lady (gg).  She loves me deeply and I am proud to say I am lesbian.  It's nothing to be ashamed of or scared of.  It sounds like you have a wonderful lady who is supporting you and is reaching out to help you along. Look her deep in the eyes and hold her tight. You need not always say 'I am lesbian', just 'I am in love with a loving supportive lady and I love her deeply' . I know it's not entirely easy but all you need to remember and feel is her love for you and enjoy it deeply.  You will be so much happier than you are if you have to label and evaluate everything in your life. Hope this helps in some small way.  Good luck to both of you,
                                                                        Kim 
Ps. we have 3 beautiful little children

Thanks, Kim.  Yes, you count.  I always forget about IS.  Forgive me for my slight.

Hi Tay........

Yeah, I'm TS lesbian.  Let me get this right.....your partner is genetic male, TS lesbian?  If this is the case, then being TS, she should be on high doses of spiro, which, after 6 months or so render you sterile.  Besides which, after a long enough time on antiandrogens, that particular appendage does not respond as well, or as long, usually, insufficient for penetration.  Sorry for the 'balls to the walls' explanation, but check out the Wiki.

Best,

Bev

I'm a transgendered lesbian, I've had an orchiectomy though.

She's still pre hormone.  She is trying to figure out how to tell other people close to her right now.

im a ts lesbian.  gender identity and sexual preference are two separate issues

Quote from: taytransgirls here who have operational XY

im not sure i undertand what you mean by this.   

Quote from: Katia on April 04, 2007, 11:38:08 PM
im a ts lesbian.  gender identity and sexual preference are two separate issues

Quote from: taytransgirls here who have operational XY

im not sure i undertand what you mean by this.   

Working boy-bits.  She and I use the term XY to replace "physically male" in our day to day speech to avoid confusion.

to put it bluntly, she's attracted to what she's attracted to.  nothing she does is going to change that fact.  tell her to read this

http://www.annelawrence.com/mirrors.html

i believe it can help her.

Why this attahement to labels? She is who she is, you are who you are. You are both unique, complex and wondrous human beens with your own feelings, emotions and desires. If you love each others for who you are with the bits you have and are making each other happy... what's the beef?
LL&R
Maebh

Thank you everyone for helping Tay with me.

I admit I was pretty down for a while, but when Tay brought me to this site, it really helped a lot.

I love you Tay!

And Katia, thanks for the link. I'll see if I can obtain that book. Just knowing that such a book has been written helps me feel a lot more comfortable and a lot less alone.

Thank you so much.



Its been a bit of a lonely walk for me but I think this place will really help.

Yes.  Thank you everyone for such kind words and tidbits of information for Sophia.   I love that girl to bits and I'm doing everything in my power to support her, as long as she'll let me.  Hopefully, introducing her to this site will help in ways I simply don't know how.

Thank you.

Quote from: Katia on April 05, 2007, 12:16:40 AM
to put it bluntly, she's attracted to what she's attracted to.  nothing she does is going to change that fact.  tell her to read this

http://www.annelawrence.com/mirrors.html

i believe it can help her.

Psycho-analytics never work.

-- Brede

Well to make sure its clear, I would never want to change who I am.

Despite the pain and the fear that I've been through, I am a woman and a lesbian, and I love being both.

I've just felt very alone and scared lately as its sunk in that people aren't going to be very accepting of me.

I guess what I really needed was just knowing that other people were going through the same thing.

^*smile* Yes, there are quite a number going/have gone/are starting to go though the same thing, you really are not alone in this. You are even in good company here

Quote from: Kimberly on April 08, 2007, 07:31:32 PM
^*smile* Yes, there are quite a number going/have gone/are starting to go though the same thing, you really are not alone in this. You are even in good company here

Thank you!

Its a really big comfort to me to know that there are people who I can go to for advice or just shoulders to cry on when things get hard.

You're not alone.  I am a preop m2f and have had a few lesbian flings/GFs.  Each knew what was under the hood so to speak and did not care.

I'm a post-op mtf and in a relationship with another mtf. So we are in a lesbian relationship. (hugss and kisses Melissa). It happens gender identity and sexual preferance are different issues but can interact in some interesting ways.
Rashelle

Quote from: Attis on April 08, 2007, 07:14:09 PM

Quote from: Katia on April 05, 2007, 12:16:40 AM
to put it bluntly, she's attracted to what she's attracted to.  nothing she does is going to change that fact.  tell her to read this

http://www.annelawrence.com/mirrors.html

i believe it can help her.

Psycho-analytics never work.

-- Brede

you're absolutely correct.  PSYCHO-analytics never work.  lol

You're not alone, there seem to be a few of us. I'm m2f2?, neither gender, third gender, androgyne, and in a long term partnership with another woman. I guess we're lesbians of a sort, or perhaps we should call ourselves "transbians"

zythyra