This is my first post and I'm sure this has been asked before. I have spent hours searching for information regarding personal experiences with the effects HRT has on the sex life. I'm currently married with a supporting wife. I have been going out in public for over a year dressed as a women. I have been going to my therapy for 3 months about once a week.  I'm MTF transgender. I have been through several laser treatments for my beard. I start my HRT on March 22. So I'm on track with my goal. But my wife is a very sexual person and she is a bit worried that my
penis will stop working as far as erections. She knows its gonna get smaller and she is fine with that, but how many people here have lost all use due to HRT? how many have had no change at all?

My advice is if erections are important to you, you should not start hormones.  No one can gaurantee you that they won't get harder to achieve and eventually impossible.  After all, that is the purpose of taking female hormones, to become as much of a woman as you can.

Kiss them good bye

Mine aren't very firm after 6 months, it curves downward and is a lil painful if I do anything beyond minor touching. My ejaculation ... is non existant. You may want to bank sperm if you're looking to have kids one day because you'll probably be permanently sterile after 6 months.

I'm glad I'm strictly into men and a bottom only, with no desire for anybody to even acknowledge my penis, or I'd be in trouble huh?

Quote from: Sarah Louise on March 08, 2012, 04:10:11 PM
After all, that is the purpose of taking female hormones, to become as much of a woman as you can.

Shoot.. some days I get on here and wonder if the real purpose is to just have boobies to look at when your gf / wife gets mad at you

Quote from: Joana25 on March 08, 2012, 03:58:33 PM
But my wife is a very sexual person and she is a bit worried that my
penis will stop working as far as erections. She knows its gonna get smaller and she is fine with that, but how many people here have lost all use due to HRT? how many have had no change at all?

Even if that part doesn't work there are alternatives, but for a lot of us I suspect the mental dissonance ensures that HRT cripples it.

Do you plan SRS/GRS/GCS?  If so what does your wife think of that?

Joana, don't let people make you feel ashamed because you want to keep your erections. Now having said that, I've been on HRT for 6 years and have had no problem getting an erection. So, it is definitely possible for you to be on hormones long term and still be able to please your wife. Your doctor should start you on the lowest dose anyway so as it increases, you'll be able to see how much it's effecting you.

 I've been on hormones for 15 months... and my erectile ability remains mostly the same. It's not quite as easy as it used to be, but the difference is quite minor, and the size of which is not depreciated significantly.

Sometimes you lose it, sometimes you don't. It's a gamble. I'd rather be without mine, but I don't mind too much; at least I don't get them randomly.

Thanks for all the differant views on this subject. It's more helpful than a DR.....LOL. since you are all on HRT. Not some DR that's tells me "well you might lose it or it might be OK. we will have to wait and see." For me it's still important that I'm able to please my wife sexually. I don't really mind having a penis, other than tucking it sucks, and that fact that I was born with the wrong genitals. But sex is important to me where as other it's not that important. I'm just being honest so that I can get the best view for all of you.  but I don't really have any plans for SRS/GRS/GCS as of yet, but I guess if the little guy stop working then GREEN light SRS.......That was what my wife just said....

Your doctor's right. We know the general trends, but the only way to know whether it will work out that way for you is to try it. Luckily, HRT isn't an all or nothing thing. Your doctor should have several low-risk options for "trial" HRT just to suss out issues like this. You can choose from lots of formulations of lots of hormones, and they'll all have different effects on you.

For my own part, I've been on HRT, but not for all that long. I currently have little issue getting and maintaining voluntary erections. I have little problem ejaculating, even. What disappeared for me were the for-no-reason-at-all spontaneous erections and the morning wood. For the longest time, I thought this meant my testosterone was way too high. Well, I just got my bloodwork results back a week ago; turns out my testosterone was at 8 ng/dL--well below "normal adult female" range!

Again, the only way to truly know is to try.

it's not the physical effects of the hormones you have to worry about its the psychological as the hormones may convince you that sex with your penis is wrong...and everyone knows that on some occasions a man just can't get an erection on demand so this may happen more until it becomes  a problem for your wife.

you have no guarantees on what the effects of the hormones will be after a few months or a year.

keep us informed.

I will keep all of you updated...on how it works out, eitherway i'm moving forward with HRT. I think the last comment has a good point, "will sex with my penis be wrong mentally after HRT" it's gonna be interesting to see the effects HRT will have on me both physical and mental.

You may find that your erogenous zones "remap" so that the whole genital area becomes more sensitive, but the glans itself gets less sensitive. That, and the, well, I don't know what better to call it than the "feminising" of one's sexuality on hormones, can change your relationship with sex, so it's less easy to get turned on, but more powerful when you do . There seem to be so many variations on the theme, expect the unexpected - and (whisper it) there's always viagra...

The one thing you can be sure of is that hormones will change you, and both you and your wife will have to negotiate that change, whatever it is - and keep negotiating it. Bon voyage.

My experience has been that sex, arousal, masturbation - the whole kitten kaboodle - has gotten better.  I'm able to obtain and maintain an erection better now than before HRT.  I'm like a freakin unicorn when it comes to that - so YMMV.  Arousal takes longer and more foreplay is necessary(even during solo sex!), but it's totally worth it.  Everything feels STRONGER now, more vibrant, more satisfying.  I think it has to do with my psych matching up with the feedback that I get from my body - I FEEL like a woman now rather just KNOWING for I'm supposed to be feeling, and being disappointed that I don't.  I've also found that fantasy and emotion and tenderness and romance and demonstrated affection and mood play larger roles in the necessities for my arousal.

Like many girls have said, you need to plan for the worst and hope for the best.  Going into HRT, I accepted that I may lose the ability to gain an erection, and that I would need to find other ways to get myself off.  Prostate stimulation seems to be preferred by many transgirls.  It's true that the whole area has become more sensitive for me - when I got everything rocking, it's amazing. ^_^

There are alternatives if you lose the ability to maintain an erection - viagra, toys, and strap-ons being some of them.   I wish you and your wife the best!

Quote from: Joana25 on March 08, 2012, 03:58:33 PM
This is my first post and I'm sure this has been asked before. I have spent hours searching for information regarding personal experiences with the effects HRT has on the sex life. I'm currently married with a supporting wife. I have been going out in public for over a year dressed as a women. I have been going to my therapy for 3 months about once a week.  I'm MTF transgender. I have been through several laser treatments for my beard. I start my HRT on March 22. So I'm on track with my goal. But my wife is a very sexual person and she is a bit worried that my
penis will stop working as far as erections. She knows its gonna get smaller and she is fine with that, but how many people here have lost all use due to HRT? how many have had no change at all?

Quote from: Sarah Louise on March 08, 2012, 04:10:11 PM
My advice is if erections are important to you, you should not start hormones.  No one can gaurantee you that they won't get harder to achieve and eventually impossible.  After all, that is the purpose of taking female hormones, to become as much of a woman as you can.

Gonna' have to agree with this.

Can't give a solid answer on the question. An erection would make me want to grab a knife and slice the nasty thing off.

but nonetheless, my doctor did talk to me about it and said that for those who do wish to be sexually active even after HRT that he gives them a lower dosage.

So I suppose if it becomes a problem you could see about cutting the amounts down.

If this isn't about you and strictly what your wife wants then tell her to get a dildo.

Quote from: Emmy on March 14, 2012, 06:46:54 PM
If this isn't about you and strictly what your wife wants then tell her to get a dildo.

haha... lovely

Cuz hey, she's gonna have to "learn" to be bi / lesbian anyways I'd imagine, if she's not bi

I just started HRT (Spiro in Jan. and Estrofem 2 days ago) so I can't be of much help. But I have a friend that has been on HRT for about 2 years and has not lost function. She mentioned that for a while it was difficult for her to function, but then her body adapted so to speak and now is ok.

Yeah my little monster is more for her then me. I just wanna keep her happy too but to tell the truth i'm thinking I want SRS... Anyways... But untill that day comes I gotta use my little monster to keep her sexual appetite at bay. I swear shes has a mans sex drive.. I start next week on HRT then its a long road ahead. Im still gonna keep everyone updated on how long it works or doesnt.

I do not have an issue with erections as many have stated. I think the most important sex organ is your brain. After all , isn't the brain the one that tells us we are also women? Meaning that, for some, it might be that they associate being women with NOT having a penis or an erection. The brain "hears" this, and it begins to shut itself down in that department. Hmmm, not sure if I made myself clear.
I am predominantly (although I say I'm bi too) a lesbian. I love my spouse and she is amazing in bed. Like some lesbians, we enjoy dlidos (Not sure if I can say that here). I look at it as having a built in one, so it comes in handy when I am making my partner happy. Does it get in the way of things in my head?.... sometimes....sure it does! But, rather than go nuts because I have one at this moment, I try to find the right perspective to take and THAT seems to help my penis issues out. My orgasms are amazing!!! And yes, like many girls on here say, they are FABULOUS!! So, if you do have a penis, and it is treating you well, enjoy it. Let it give you the pleasure you need. Then, if you are ready to take another step by having SRS you can figure things out later...if you do want SRS. Some people don't feel it's that needed. Don't let your penis define who you are. I don't.

Ok this is an update on this topic i started 2 months ago. So far I have had fast results on HRT its been amazing how much its effected my body. So far I have breast groth, loss of muscle mass, soft looking skin, my penis and balls are shrinking rapidly. I dont get erection at all anymore, when me and my wife try and have sex it takes alot of foreplay just to get a chubby. Then we try and have sex with my little guy and bam!!! It just get limp quick. So for me i guess I got my answer to my question. My Endo has me on an agressive dose of HRT and I really like his approach and im gonna say on HRT because Im liking these results, i can only emagine where I will be at 6 months or a year. So being a very sexual person all my life and pretty much having sex with my wife 4-5 times a week to nothing now has been a hard on me mentally but i did know this could happen.. So just an update to all of you that posted now you know how it went. But the positve is that my body changing result are moving so fast I never would have thought that much would happen. So I would say I have gained alot and lost a little, for my results.

If you remove T blockers you should be able to perform for a while but secondary feminizing characteristics are slowed.