I really want to know what the purpose of being negative is. Why do people always have to walk around like Debbie downers and try to cast a gray cloud upon others? I understand people go through so much in life, but do they understand that its not just them? Its a whole bunch of other people going through the same thing? I hope I'm not coming off as a bitch or like I don't care about peoples feeling. I just don't see the point in being negative all the time.

Misery loves company.

Neither do I, but you have to take into account that some people have mood disorders and chemical imbalances and whatnot that could account for some uncontrollably negative behavior. I'm not one of those people, but still.

I don't understand the point of it either.

Personally I try to learn from every experience.
Bad ->-bleeped-<- happens, but theirs always a reason behind it, even when you can't figure out what that reason is.
I don't want to waste my life being negative, so I do my darnest best to be positive at all times.
Stop pitying yourself, cause guess what there's ALWAYS someone that's got it worst.
Be grateful people for what you do have, instead of complaining about what you don't have.
Peace out.

Jay and Renee I agree with both of you! I hate when I try to help someone but no matter what I say or try to do they stick to their negative thoughts, it goes in one ear and out the other!

Well sometimes life just sucks or is perceive as being suckage, and you just have to be depress because that's what your feeling like ALL THE TIME. So with chemical balances and such, you could be naturally incline. It's hard to not feel horrible, and some people can't control it.

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i blame a lot of todays negativity on the brainwashing of televsion as so many UK soaps have characters who constantly utter negative thoughts and remarks about everything.
I've worked with people like that and had to stop talking to them because they were so depressing.

We all have problems but lets support each other.

Being negative is sometimes a cry for help by a brother or sister who is in distress. Lets us not judge too quickly. If someone posts in a thread that is upsetting or disturbing just hit the Mod button and we will look at it.

I think it is very important  to respond properly and not let these dramas escalate, and they can very quickly.

Cindy

 Sometimes I'm in a bad mood, and then I go and post something bitter. Sometimes I'm in a great mood and post something uplifting. Generally, I try to be pretty optimistic about things in any case; after all, life has been pretty good to my TS friends and I, and I feel quite removed from the dark, violent, and oppressive nature of society toward us.

Negativity doesn't help anyone... but posting a little rant here and there isn't bad for alleviating stress.

Because people are bitter and think they know it all.

While I admit that this is something of a generalisation, I have found from my 8 year online experience that Americans do tend to suffer from Pollyanna-ism.    I once got into a terrific fight with an American woman because she was so, and I mean soooo relentlessly upbeat, bubbly and bouncy that she had no emotional range.   She was always manically happy, which made me suspicious.    All her 'yays' , and 'isn't just great to be alive?'  and other similar statements struck me as being obviously forced and therefore phoney.   The other British members(all genetic women) used to say to me privately that they to felt that her relentless perkiness was something of an act, but perhaps it is a cultural thing and maybe we British are too realistic for our own good?

Define "negativity." I've known people who were so relentlessly positive that they did not have a remotely realistic view of the world. You can get burned pretty badly with that attitude.

We might be talking about different things here, but I think that negativity has its place.

Then again, I'm a cynic. I have little patience with Pollyannas.

Sometimes things get so rough that people aren't able to see things any other way. It's said that being optimistic is a sign of good mental health. But if depression is kicking your ass, sometimes it's too hard. Pretty simple. Not everyone works that way though, and I'm glad. If that were the case, humanity would have died off long ago. We always find some positivity to keep us going.

I use to be a very giving loving child but I must also admit to being addicted  to being negative in my life earlier due to having been pushed off on the wrong foot which was probably due to getting burnt too many times so i soon became a person who thought everyone was going to burn me again so i would just cut them off before they could cut me off and hurt me, which made me a negative type person sharing things with a bad attitude,and that made me feel I had to finally stay by myself and surrender everything in my life to the spirits above so as not to worry about all things here on earth which has now freed me to be able to live a much more carefree life not worrying about what others think, do or say and that has allowed me to support others and not seek my own self gratification which has taken me back to the child i use to be ealier on in my life when i was so free in body mind and spirit, so now i like to spend my time supporting others .   


There was a time when I was in a hurry as you are
I was like you
There was a day when I just had to tell my point of view
I was like you
Now I don't mean to make you frown
No, I just want you to slow down

Have you never been mellow?
Have you never tried to find a comfort from inside you?
Have you never been happy just to hear your song?
Have you never let someone else be strong?

Running around as you do with your head up in the clouds
I was like you
Never had time to lay back, kick your shoes off, close your eyes
I was like you
Now you're not hard to understand
You need someone to hold your hand

Have you never been mellow?
Have you never tried to find a comfort from inside you?
Have you never been happy just to hear your song?
Have you never let someone else be strong?

I'm generally a fairly happy and upbeat person, but in the last week or so I've had a visit from the evil twins - anxiety and depression.. Despite this, I've not gone around being all negative..

Quote from: Arch on March 09, 2012, 12:44:24 PM
Define "negativity." I've known people who were so relentlessly positive that they did not have a remotely realistic view of the world. You can get burned pretty badly with that attitude.

We might be talking about different things here, but I think that negativity has its place.

Then again, I'm a cynic. I have little patience with Pollyannas.

I tend to agree with this.

The key is finding a balance.

As Nietzche said: "One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star."

Quote from: Sephirah on March 10, 2012, 06:42:08 AM
I tend to agree with this.

The key is finding a balance.

As Nietzche said: "One must still have chaos in oneself to be able to give birth to a dancing star."

Nietzsche also asked the question: 'what if happiness and unhappiness are dynamically linked?'    He argued that if you want a lot of happiness then you have to be prepared to put up with a fair amount of unhappiness, because not everything you attempt will succeed, and not every person you would like to befriend or have a relationship with  will won't to be your friend and this rejection can and will cause unhappiness.   Nietzsche went on to suggest that if you aren't prepared to accept pain and suffering along with great happiness and achievement, hen you could go the other route, which is to have little happiness BUT as a consequence(remember his argument was that happiness and unhappiness are linked to each other) you get very little unhappiness.  This second way of being obviously lacks the troughs of the first way of being, but you don't get the peaks either.   The second way is safe and secure but airless, boring and sterile.   The choice is entirely up to you.   If the thought of the 'hells' cancels out the great joy of the 'heavens' then the second way is the path for you, just don't moan and groan to yourself or others if your life is deeply dull and boring.

"I Nietzsche...like the flower needs the rain, you know I Nietzsche..."

I notice that from some people all you hear is how we are all going to die. I think a lot of this is from people who are freaked out about transitioning and these doom and gloom stories are a great reason to stay in the closet.