Quote from: alexharmon on March 13, 2012, 10:14:25 PM
You're right. I'm looking too much to define myself around the gender that I'm trying to choose.. I know many transpeople who are doing that and I wasn't even aware that I was doing that until now.
I have to try to be female, I don't really have to try to be male. I would have to try to be androgynous. It would be difficult for me...
You don't have to try to be female...Be yourself, whether that means adding facets of male or not.
Many people envision gender as a spectrum, let yourself be you...not an invention, not a statement, just be you.
Find yourself.
What I quoted was referring to not being someone else's expectations.
That is the counterfeit, why the word was used.
The essence of what Emerald said (as I understand it), is to be yourself.
Who ever you are, who ever you become in your journey of self discovery,
you will be the person that you are looking for...Your True Self.
Let the question of gender, just be. It's really not important enough to help guide you.
What ever it is or becomes, doesn't matter as much as you being true to yourself.
That is important to those of us who are non-binary.
Just be yourself.
It's something we all try to be here.
We are all different as non-binaries, we are all the same in trying to understand ourselves.
Gender is just not important.
Who you are,... is.
Once I learned to just let go of the idea of gender, I became more accepting of myself.
There are some of us who hang around enough to help others here.
It is that important.
What Padma and Jamie D are telling you is important.
They have been where you are, they have gone through it.
Forget all the labels and all the boxes that they go on!
They do nothing but get in the way of yourself, of who you are.
Ativan