Not looking to tick anyone off.  Just wondering why transwomen are not interested in having a relationship with transmen? 

Hi mowdan. I hadn't heard that. There seem to be a lot of ftm/mtf couples. What prompted this?

A good bit of mtfs that I've encountered seem to be into transmen especially because there is that extra level of understanding.  Big plus for me  

What prompted me to write  this is, in my neck of the woods, transwomen are not intersted in transmen at all.  As a transman, I have always been attracted to transwomen.  But the transwomen I have met, are only interested in knowing other women.  And I guess I am just wondering if I am barking up the wrong tree. 

Quote from: mowdan6 on March 31, 2012, 02:00:10 PM
What prompted me to write  this is, in my neck of the woods, transwomen are not intersted in transmen at all.  As a transman, I have always been attracted to transwomen.  But the transwomen I have met, are only interested in knowing other women.  And I guess I am just wondering if I am barking up the wrong tree.

I wouldn't say you are barking up the wrong tree.  You just happen to get some bitter fruit from that tree.  I'm sure there are some transwomen who would be attracted to you outside where you are.

Quote from: mowdan6 on March 31, 2012, 02:00:10 PM
What prompted me to write  this is, in my neck of the woods, transwomen are not intersted in transmen at all.  As a transman, I have always been attracted to transwomen.  But the transwomen I have met, are only interested in knowing other women.  And I guess I am just wondering if I am barking up the wrong tree.

  They're probably lesbian transwomen lol.
  There seems to be alot more lesbian transwomen then straight transwomen for some reason.

  I like men & transmen are men so why not? 

Here in my neck of the woods, a lot of transwomen are lesbians. I am one of the few straight ones, I would prefer to not have a relationship with a transman. I have reached the point in my transition that it's on autopilot and I don't think about things much anymore. I just live my life and me being trans feels like it's in the past.

It's hard to find another trans-person who is the same stage of transition, and who prefers to be stealth in the same way that I am. Plus sex can cause a bit of dysphoria for me. I was in a short relationship with a transman, and sex was always stressful for me.

I'm bisexual or pansexual or something. I just like people. I am in love with a ciswoman. <3 I care for her very deeply, so that would be the reason I specifically am not in a relationship with a transman. 

I do find transmen can be very attractive though, and wouldn't be opposed at all to being with one if I were single.

Actually, I have often thought that dating a transman would be cool.  I had a crush on one guy, but he did not seem to be into an older transwoman.

Speaking personally, I wouldn't think of it as having a relationship with a transman. As far as transmen and transwomen are concerned, I tend to disregard the 'trans' prefix. Women are women and men are men. The bits and pieces make no difference, at least as far as I'm concerned.

Malachite does touch on something that, for me, would matter more than anything physical. A degree of empathy and that bond which comes from shared experience, that is a definite advantage in any relationship.

Speaking hypothetically, I would happily enter into a relationship with someone of any gender, as long as that spark was there, and they possessed the qualities which I personally find attractive. For me that isn't physical.

Everyone's different, hon. And what one, or even several may feel about something... that doesn't make it the rule.

I wouldn't have any issue with dating one if I were attracted to them as a person. I'm fairly asexual though, so I'm rarely attracted to anyone and then sex is an issue for me, just not into it.

I totally would 

Everything else being equal I'd date a trans guy over a cis guy. And I don't say that in the weird objectifying way, but wouldn't it be nice to know your partner just *gets* that part of your life?

No offense, but I prefer cis. Especially over a pre op, unless he doesn't want his lower half touched at all. Not only is it tough for 2 transsexuals to be in a relationship with all the stigma, financial situations etc, I just don't think I could get over the female anatomy. I know that sounds hypocritical, but that's just how my door swings.

But if Mr. Right (that very elusive one) is a transman, I'd probably lose the barriers.

Men are men... it doesn't really matter what's between your man's legs, in my opinion. That said, I am open to the idea and I wouldn't mind it. HOWEVER, I think I do like cis-gender male parts a little more than, well, lady parts... it makes me wonder how long it would work for me until I start craving other things. Kind of a crappy thing to say... but I think that's the honest truth. Love can be different than sex, though of course, so anything can happen. ^.^

At first, I would have said "definitely not" to a transman.

But, I have seen some REALLY hot transguys since then! And now it is firmly in the "depends who" category.

To be honest, what is in the pants is kind of important and is a big issue (even when deciding to date a cis guy further). I want to know my partner is feeling things when making love... instead of just going through the act with a toy for my sake (I would HATE that).

I would.

*cough*
I'm dating one.

To be honest, what is in the pants is kind of important and is a big issue (even when deciding to date a cis guy further). I want to know my partner is feeling things when making love... instead of just going through the act with a toy for my sake (I would HATE that).

Are you talking about penetration? (Sorry I'm a little slow today)
An FTM would feel something, and I'm not talking about just physically.
The emotional connection and the mental sensations he gets when he and his partner are sharing something so intimate is enough to make him more than happy.