I wouldn't do it. I could be a homophobic male for example so it's now worth it. Now i'm really tolerant and i understand people from lgbt community i'm really "open" to world.

I'd do it. Being a cis man would have prevented a lot of awful things in my life that have left me traumatized and just...messed up. I think I'd still be me, just...happy. A normal guy. It'd be nice, really.

Quote from: Tom on May 10, 2010, 10:08:09 AM
You could go back in time and make it so you are born the gender you were supposed to be, would you do it or not?

Personally my first answer was YES DUH COURSE I WOULD but then i got to thinking. If i was born male from the very beginning would i be the same person i am now? the answer for me is a definate no.

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How do you feel about it?

Personally, I would totally go back and do it --cos it sounds like I was the exact opposite of the kid you described.  I was a mostly-quiet, bookwormy kid mostly raised by my English grandparents.  I loved theatre and make-up.  Yeah, if the rest of the world recognised me as the little boy I was, it would have made my life harder, but I think it would have been character-building at the same time.  I really don't think I would have been afforded much, if any "male privilege" on account of being small and effete (my father was 5'4" and my mother 5'2", I was going to be short, no matter what was between my legs at birth), so I really doubt school would have been much, if any easier --and considering that my father was damned determined that I was going to go into medicine, even as I was, that certainly would not have changed, unless, of course, he was that against having a femmey little boy, in which case, the beatings I suffered would have been worse.

The only upside I really see, all things considered up to this point in my life, is that I would have an easier time picking up other gay men, and all things considered, that's probably my biggest barrier, socially, so yeah, I'm going to stop thinking about it and say YES, I WOULD.

Plus:  Being this uncomfortable in one's own skin?  It totally sucks.  I absolutely do not understand people who would choose being TS over being born in the right body.

I think I would go back and help my young self express her feelings and get professional help.

I know she would've accepted it had she been given the option and with my coaching she would be able to explain it much much sooner.

I also might have to nudge some scientists here and there so that they discover somethings a little earlier... ;->

Being born the way I am isn't so bad? It's the way my community and I reacted to it has caused most of the damage.

No brainer really, If I could be born female I certainty would go for it

I would so love to go back and see that that one "detail" was changed so I was 100% girl,

having grown up this far seeing my sister as pretty much the girl version I would have been appearance wise would not be bad at all

hum... i would have picked to be all one way. i guess that would mean male

Hell Yeah I would

I think I'd just do it. My personality would definitely be different but I guess in my new life I wouldn't care anyway as much as the thought bothers me, though I'd still be pretty liberal. My teenage years were wasted because of this. I have some body dysphoria that can't be fixed. I'm always aching about my inability to become pregnant. Frankly it's too good to pass up.

What birth-assigned gender was I supposed to be? I'm a CAFAB non-binary autoandrophile...

But anyway, even if we did figure out what I was supposed to be-NO NO NO NO NO. I'm very proud of being trans, and really wouldn't like to identify as cis. I've identifed as cis in the past. It's a very closed-minded way of viewing the world-I could only stomach it for a bit over a decade, I've no idea how some people can manage it for their whole lives!

I would have been born in a female body, the PTSD has ripped my life into tatters i have run like a fox in front of the hounds all my life.

Absolutely, I would. 

Before transition, I used to tell myself "I have no regrets in this life, for it's my mistakes and choices that make me who I am."  In fairness, that may be true, but that was when I could still suppress all the emotions I had...back when I beleived that "I choose what I am in this world."  Since I stopped running from who and what I am, I can't suppress those emotions anymore, and It brings me pain...LOTS of pain. 

I never identified as "transgender" or "transsexual".  Personally, I hate both of those titles, and all the stereotypes that ensue when using them.  I've identified as "woman" for as long as I can remember, but all the "hard physical evidence" presented to me told me otherwise.  So, being of an analytical mind, I concluded that I must be wrong.  I mean, how can I be a girl, when I have a penis?  The contradiction and confusion were more than my 5 year old consciousness could handle, so, I did what so many of us do...I locked it away, deep within my mind, thinking that it would eventually go away.  Obviously, not the case.

I am post op now, and still find myself missing something.  I look like a woman now.  I have breasts, hips, a butt, a vagina...but I can't get pregnant, have no past life as a girl, no memories or experiences to pull from to help me through life as a woman, and above all, I have a secret that I will inevitably have to tell anyone who I get close to.  All that said, will I ever be the woman I identify as?  Or, will I always just be a reasonable facsimile?

These are things I wouldn't be thinking about had I been born in the correct body.  Don't get me wrong, I'm sure I'd have an entirely different set of troubles and worries to deal with, but I feel like they would have been problems that I was more adept to deal with.  Also, I totally think childhood would have been a much less damaging experience.  Of course, I would be different than I am today...life experience definitely helps to shape your personality, but would I be any worse off?  I beleive that I would be much the same, without all the baggage that being trans saddles us with.

What it boils down to, I guess, is how much would you be willing to trade to "just be normal"?  I'm guessing that for a majority of people in the trans community, that's their number one wish.  I, for one, would trade it all.

Thanks for listening to me babble.

~Emily

I wouldn't change a thing. I feel I was meant to be trans and I really don't know what I would be like if I had been born female. I wouldn't be the same person with the same experiences. I can honestly say my life hasn't sucked from being trans, it really hasn't sucked period

Honestly, I would go for it and make myself female, and while I know my life would be quite different, I think I would be a very happy girl.

I never really felt "right" as a guy. I could never relate to my guy friends talking about taking a woman and making love to her, I would only imagine BEING the woman.

I always had a girly side to my personality, and I was aware that it was the more dominant side, but I would have to suppress it.

And physically, I never felt right with a penis. I like standing up to pee, but it's a habit I'm going to break myself of. Otherwise, I have nothing but disdain for my genitals.

I would do it. I know I would be a different person if I had been born male and that would be okay. If I had been different certain things wouldn't of happened in my life. Maybe I would be closed minded, I don't know but atleast those two people would be alright.

The only way I could say "yes" is if I was able to change other factors of my life from birth to age 20. Being gendered as female then would have made things worse for me in the abusive home in which i was raised.