I fly back to kansas city tomorrow and see my teenage children to tell them their dad is a girl.  They have not seen me since December /Christmas when I was not that far along. There was no way I was coming out during christmas.  I have talked to my two oldest about being very different to prep them for the news.  Not looking forward to it and I also know that it must be done now. My EX will be expecting the children to stay with me after school is out.  I'd rather not surprise them when they (if they) get here.   

On the advice of friends that know I'm MTF and who know my EX too, well, they recommended that I not tell her direct and to be out of kansas before she knows.  I have prepared a letter for her.  She hates me anyway,  Never gave her a reason to, she just does.  She's not very nice to begin with.

I do expect the worst, though my daughter said she would love me no matter what.  Which gives me a small bit of hope.  I've talked to her the most about me and my struggles.  Of course they all know I'm "Weird" as I went Blonde last year with pierced ears, So average I've never been. 


Yes I am scared. This is so not going to be fun.

Beni

Oh Beni I will be praying for you.
I hope your children surprise you with there love.
They are usually more acceptanting than adults are.
It is scary and I remember telling my boys, adults, that I was TG and there responce was that they still loved me no mater what.
Hugs and Best wishes,
Jillieann

 :angel:ONE  THING  I KNOW  YOUR  CHILDREN  AND  GOD  WILL  ALWAYS
LOVE YOU .  BEST  WISHES   AND  MY  GOD  BLESS  YOUR FOOT STEPS  .
    DEBBIE  ANN  60 

Ah Beni, I hope all is going well today!

I'm with ya in spirit hon

Let us know how things went, K?

Kate

I'm in kansas city tonight and meeting my teens tomorrow morning.  I've been sad, emotional, crying off and on all day. I've been scared of this day for months  I so fear loosing my children.  My daughter has already said that no matter what she'll still love me.  While I've told her everything I can without coming right out and saying I'm TS, I still worry. I don't think transgender is in their vocabulary yet.  They live in a very small and very conseravitive town in kansas.  I did not fit in before I transitioned,  Now I might was well be from another planet. 

One positive note for the day, this was my first major trip as me.  While my Drivers license photo is me and my first name works, the middle name and Gender marker, well,  To me they look like flashing  24" high neon signs.  But from the remarks from the guys at the hotel desk, they don't really look at the information much.  No problems with TSA, check in or rental car folks at all or anywhere else for that matter.  Though I thing I was clocked by a few fellow travelers,  But not many.   


I am very very blessed.

It is amazing how flexible my kids are.  Luke my oldest, said it did not really matter as every one has issues.  He's a very smart lad,  too smart to do well in school.  Laura was OK with it too, I was not too worried about her as I had told her lots.  I had been worried about Luke, But he was like, so what's the problem again.  It was a non-issue to them.

Daniel my youngest, I'm not sure he got what I was saying, He's in 7th grade and has a bit of a learning handicap.  He's very smart, he tested off the scale in math and science and at about 0 in reading. His brain does not let him read words very well.  He learns by hearing the text spoken..  But he is murder with video games, no one can beat him and I mean older teens and adults.  In any event I don't think he will have problems with me other then that I'm weird.  But there's not been much of a question about that.

This evening, I'm thinking I should have told them months ago, as it's been eating at me for a while.  WOW what a day. I'm feeling the stress leave me and that there is a tomorrow.  I do get wrapped up emotionally.

I am a very lucky lady to have children so very cool.

Beni

Beni!!! That's FANTASTIC! Congrats hon, that's SO cool it went so well!

See? YOU shine through, they love YOU. Not the package or image.

And hey... I think ALL kids think their parents are a bit "weird," lol.... ya don't need GID to earn that title

Kate

Oh Beni, that is so great! 

QuoteI am a very lucky lady to have children so very cool.

Yes you are and blessed too. I am so happy for you.
You should celebrate maybe good shopping or treat yourself to a great dinner.

Jillieann

WOW what a weekend,  Just got back home from traveling to KC comeing out to my teen children yesterday and then having them met Beni today in full form.  My kids were just the best.  They said I'm weird (I agreed with them) and that they still love me anyway.   Words can not express how much that meant to me to hear that.  I told them that no matter who I was, I would always be their dad too.

Their mom when she read the letter I had the kids give her, just laughed.  Very odd woman.  It appears that my children will still get to come visit me and I'll still get to visit with them.  You know while I have dreaded coming out, everyone I came out too pretty much still accepts me for me. 

I also had just the best time with my trip travel too.  Everyone took me at face value.  I'm a very happy lady tonight.  Yes I do need to go shopping ;-).

Good for you! It is so wonderful to hear of your very positive experience. I'm so happy that you shared it with us.

Cindi

That is just wonderful -hugs- it is truly wonderful to have one's family accept them.  It is good to hear that you raised such accepting kids.  They will be the true benefactors of our future, to be a more accepting human kind, and a more forgiving human kind.

I am still amazed at just how well my childred stood by me.  Their support and understanding was mindboggleing in a very good way.  I really need to worry less.  The whole weekend was just great.

Anyone contenplating traveling via Air,  well it's no big deal.  Even though my drivers license still has the dreaded M on it, I don't think anyone noticed it,  or if they did it was no big deal. I know the guys at the hotel desk did not see the M. ;-).  It's so cool being called Miss and being mammed.  I just glow every single time that happens.

Thanks to all of you for your support through my stressing. 

Beni