Quote from: Tom on April 03, 2012, 02:53:26 PM
I fear that because I wasn't born male, because im short, because my body frame is tiny and I cannot give them kids that I will never find a girl that wants me. Thats before we get onto my geeky/immature personality and my lack of confidence.

With the exception of the tiny frame I feel like I'm looking at myself in the mirror when I read this.

I fear that the little trace of physical maleness that could remain after HRT will make me unfabulous!! 

my biggest fear was fear of the unknown. i thought about things like "what if this person knows i'm transgender, what if my family hates it." lots of things i would worry about thinking people would be aggressive with me, which is the last thing i need.

Biggest fear: not passing, being started at /pointed at/laughed at everywhere I go

Quote from: Tom on April 03, 2012, 02:53:26 PM
I fear that because I wasn't born male, because im short, because my body frame is tiny and I cannot give them kids that I will never find a girl that wants me. Thats before we get onto my geeky/immature personality and my lack of confidence.

Most girls I've known didn't want kids except to the extent that they are part of living a certain story. And hey man, any girl that does want kids is the type of girl who will likely value your tiny frame and geeky personality. Intelligence and sensitivity? Why wouldn't a girl want that?

Quote from: meatgrinder on April 03, 2012, 11:06:33 PM
Biggest fear: not passing, being started at /pointed at/laughed at everywhere I go

That's probably 99% of us!

Quote from: Felix on April 05, 2012, 04:05:24 AM
Most girls I've known didn't want kids except to the extent that they are part of living a certain story. And hey man, any girl that does want kids is the type of girl who will likely value your tiny frame and geeky personality. Intelligence and sensitivity? Why wouldn't a girl want that?

I wish I knew the girls you did lol I wouldnt really say im intelligent or sensitive....can you be sensitive if your very blunt? I appreciate what your saying though so cheers   

Where to begin.... Fear of not passing. Fear of rejection from everyone. Losing what little I have right now. I can't pick what scares m the most.

1) Fear of ending up as one of those violence/murder/rape/etc statistics. Those numbers are ...scary.
2) Being cast out in general
3) Something going wrong with HRT, or surgeries

Quote from: Eve87 on April 05, 2012, 07:08:46 PM
1) Fear of ending up as one of those violence/murder/rape/etc statistics. Those numbers are ...scary.

I fear that...like if the wrong person just happened to find out 

My biggest fear is being beat or murdered, looking into taking up martial arts to overcome this...

I have two main fears,  the biggest is telling my family because I know how they will take it and I know that they will cut me out of their lives.  Being trans just doesn't fit into their world.

My second fear is not being able to find a job.  I was made redundant and I am currently retraining but I can't find a job now let alone when I am fully transitioned.   I have serious concerns about working for someone else and I would prefer to be self employed but the economy is so crap at the moment.

Quote from: Tom on April 03, 2012, 02:53:26 PM
I fear that because I wasn't born male, because im short, because my body frame is tiny and I cannot give them kids that I will never find a girl that wants me. Thats before we get onto my geeky/immature personality and my lack of confidence.

*huggles*
Dear, you will find someone. Do you know how I know? Because you practically described me before I met my wife in an Anime chat room almost 12 years ago.

My fear? that's tough to answer because I've developed this habit of dealing with my fears with a 'let's see what happens' attitude. I guess I fear not being able to afford to have my facial hair lasered off, or that I will be small-busted. kind of petty I guess but that's what I gripe about most

Quote from: Keaira on April 06, 2012, 04:52:20 AM
*huggles*
Dear, you will find someone. Do you know how I know? Because you practically described me before I met my wife in an Anime chat room almost 12 years ago.

Oh gosh you are my new inspiration now!   

Quote from: Malachite on April 06, 2012, 09:45:57 AM
Oh gosh you are my new inspiration now!   

LOL! I'm glad I could help. ^_^

Fear of getting complications from hormones or surgery.

My family changing their minds and making a big deal over it, I suppose
like taking my meds and leaving me with nothing that would not be good

Quote from: Tom on April 03, 2012, 02:53:26 PM
I fear that because I wasn't born male, because im short, because my body frame is tiny and I cannot give them kids that I will never find a girl that wants me. Thats before we get onto my geeky/immature personality and my lack of confidence.

Another vote for this....minus the geeky personality. My height has always been a huge problem, and dealing with it completely as a short man?   And I want biological children, but no real prospects for that as I'm not getting preg, and its hard to harvest eggs properly. That, and then they wouldn't be hers as well :/ Gotta be one's or the other's...

One of my biggest fears was that I was too old to even do this. Of course at the time I was like 21. And though thought that I was much too old to come out as trans. With that the exposure of transgender children it made me feel bad that I didn't assert myself at a younger age and it made me feel like it was too late for me. HOwever, I have since realized that I was being ridiculous. I am now 23 and officially starting my journey. I've been on tblockers for 3 months now. It's never too late.

I think my other biggest fear was of not ever being read or respected as female. However as I have begun transition this fear too has abated. I now get ma'am in public on a regular basis. Even though I'm not even taking estrogen yet and have only had 3 rounds of lazer. These fears go away with time and with experience. At least that is what I have found!

my biggest fear is all the shopping I will not be able to do while saving money up to get it done.
I love the new things I get while shopping and will miss it lots.