Hey Wild, I completely know what you are talking about....
I dont know how long had you been trying to go out in the open, if you do go out during the day or at night ,and whats your level of courage to face the world when you are wearing sexy hose over recent shaved legs, and 6 inchers, forbiding to bend as you are wearing a tiny mini or a nice sexy dress, ..point is it doesnt matter how malish or ugly lady someone can "think" he can be.
The point is that everything lays into how proper clothing and good makeup or dressing style we use, rather than our race or ethnicity,
I been living abroad for many many years, and it hapenned that i lived for a short time in MExico, Chile, Brazil, Colombia and Usa, by that time i never ventured out but i found out that most of the people look at girls very close and without shyness, even some comments are given good or funny.
Then i moved to Asia, I actually started to go out at the end of my stay in the USA for couple of years, but never in crowded places, my experiences were not with the results of passing.
then in Asia was little different i started to go to a studio first, i took pics, and the professionals helped me out on tips of how to appeal to the eye, from how to dress to how to padd and how to makeup according to my face features skin tone and complexity and of course not forgetting my age, about 35.
What i can say is to start by accepting your own physical atributes or defects and start thinking on how to accentuate your girly gifts and to work on the malish features.
What i needed to do was to padd much better in specific areas, work out my postures, develop manerisms when in girl mode (very very difficult, as i am staright guy completely nothing queer on me at all), select the type of shoes i will use according to my age, my style and my possibilities to walk well, then the hard work came when i needed to develop my skill of making up my face use suitable colors and identify a stylish from vulgar or unapropriate look. and semect the apropriate wig style.
My conclusion is that once you get to master these skills and understand your dressing style according to your age and also the environment you are, i mean in mexico you will never be able to wear what young chinese are wearing, otherwise you will be confused a sa hooker in 1 second, if you come to china you will think you are in the land of the prostitute fashion but actually is the normal fashion and is considered stylish to show the line of the hose and nothing on top to cover it, just a shirt and heels, see my point?
the other thing is to know to padd and know the amnount of hips you need to make a proportional silhuete and get rid of the malish shape.
select an appropriate hair style and color to tyour skin and age.
remember is better to pass as a very regular lady even boring lady than to be id as a prostitute and then see that there is a guy in there in the open, you decide. is nothing to do with race.
send me a pm i can understand spanish too.