Thanks for all your input! Now everyone of you who have kids do they know your trans and are they excepting of it??? She said she didn't want any kids due to her being afraid of what they would think... Even if one day she decides she wants a baby with me she won't be able to produce any due to her estradiol injections... 

Quote from: Nikki59s~Girl on April 13, 2012, 07:48:49 PM
Thanks for all your input! Now everyone of you who have kids do they know your trans and are they excepting of it??? She said she didn't want any kids due to her being afraid of what they would think... Even if one day she decides she wants a baby with me she won't be able to produce any due to her estradiol injections... 

I have a 30 yo girl and 29 yo boy/girl twins, they do not know about that side of me yet and neither did their mother of course.

I have been seriously considering telling my youngest girl since she is the most understanding and progressive thinking...she is also the closest to me emotionally as well as geographically, still nervous about it and have been trying to figure out what to say first.

Quote from: Nikki59s~Girl on April 13, 2012, 07:48:49 PM
Thanks for all your input! Now everyone of you who have kids do they know your trans and are they excepting of it??? She said she didn't want any kids due to her being afraid of what they would think... Even if one day she decides she wants a baby with me she won't be able to produce any due to her estradiol injections... 

Well I have 4 so I will break it down for you:

#1 Girl-11 yrs old..thinks transition is the coolest thing since sliced bread..loves that daddy will do her nails etc
#2 Boy-9 yrs old..fine with it, wants to know the scientific explanation of EVERYTHING...This child scarred himself for life against ever having children by watching a youtube video of childbirth, afterwards he proclaimed "mommy, I will not be in the room when you have the baby!" We have refrained from allowing him on youtube or googling SRS
#3 Boy-6 yrs old..says its fine because its daddys life and everyone has the right to make their own decisions
#4 Girl-22 months..only gets freaked out when she leaves for work with her hat on.

The kids still refer to her as daddy for now, we havent come up with anything good for them to call her yet.

We have 2.

Boy 12 - is my strongest defender.  Totally accepting.  Told my therapist in a closed session that he didn't know what the big deal was, he was fine and why did everyone keep asking him over and over ;-)

Girl 8 - she was reluctant at first, but is completely on board.  Loves that I will paint her nails since Shannon doesn't paint her own most of the time.  Before FFS she was a bit uncomfortable if I wore a more revealing top or a skirt.  After FFS without that visual disconnect she hasn't had a problem at all.

Sorry I'm posting instead of Shannon, but she is getting cleaned up and ready for bed.  We've got around 48 chicks hatching this weekend and the brooder wasn't ready.  I can't work around the dust without severely irritating my allergies.  Then her and our son mowed a bit more on the yard.  Between all the mess in the air, I've already had to use my prescription drops and will end up taking a Benadryl so I can breath tonight.  I mentioned a couple of threads to her, but she is just ready to crash after getting cleaned up.

Maybe I can talk her into posting tomorrow.  She really only jumps on if I ask her to, or like with I was in Chicago for my Dr Z surgery.  Or if the SO's want to shoot her a Facebook message she is much more active there (if you look at my sig and her first name I'm sure you can find her - her profile pic used to be the other fae getting hand fasted in my avatar [leg sleeve tattoo], but she is using the JDRF shoe for now until the walk so we can hopefully raise a bit more [our son has Type 1 Diabetes]).

Our daughter decided I'm J-Mom.  Shannon tried to get her to use Mom-J since it flowed better, but J-Mom has stuck and pretty much everyone uses it now.

Quote from: Nikki59s~Girl on April 13, 2012, 07:48:49 PM
Even if one day she decides she wants a baby with me she won't be able to produce any due to her estradiol injections... 

There is always banking some sperm while you can, just in case

well, when my girls were growing up and I was in "daddy mode" all the time back then, I would still take them shopping for clothes and of course they liked it when I would do their nails and hair and also drive them and their girlfriends around...they always thought they had the coolest dad around as none of their other friends dads would do that stuff I understood "girl stuff" better than they ever knew!, Of course my son didnt get left out as we did guy stuff as well...when you think of it a trans parent can be the best of both genders when it comes to raising kids!

I am a natural born lesbian engaged to a FTM this does not make me straight....i am not in anyway attracted to men. but i love my fiance Nate. its difficult for me to "appear" straight and i have gotten alot of crap for it from other lesbians. (but then again most of these people are not very educated and define things rather strictly) I even had my ex-bestfriend scream at me at a friends house ans spit in my face because i was staying with Nate when he decided to transition. I love him. and personally, i feel that love and sexual orientation are two separate identifications. My sexual orientation is Lesbian and Proud but my heart is with Nate. and I am proud to be in love with a transman.

First, I would like to say that I completely agree that labels are not necessary and really should be used to the level of comfort of each individual.

Personally, I don't believe labels are very accurate representations of who or what any one person is. I think that labels allow individuals to more smoothly integrate into and function within society. Some people are more comfortable identifying as lesbian or straight because with that comes an entire set of behaviors, a language and a group that you are placed into by default. This is comfortable for many and quite possibly necessary for some. It is easier for someone to comprehend your sexuality and or gender if you place it somewhere in the gender dichotomy. We have forged a few labels in between male and female, but only in relation to their relative distance from cis.

In my opinion, I don't see how one label could accurately describe how your individual heart sees another human being. What word could describe how you love?

I personally identify as bisexual. This label is merely used as way to relate with my environment. My soon to be spouse is transitioning and I at one time identified as lesbian. Now, I see that it doesn't really matter to me what he identifies as, because my heart loves HIM for what he is as a whole. My heart doesn't love as a lesbian, bisexual or straight individual. My heart loves as a human being who is purely devoted to another.

Sorry for rambling, I am just really enthusiastic about gender studies. 

Hope this helps!

Quote from: LoveInMyEyes on April 26, 2012, 03:15:46 PM
In my opinion, I don't see how one label could accurately describe how your individual heart sees another human being. What word could describe how you love?

Exactly.  I've decided my orientation is that of being sexually attracted to those I find sexually attractive.    I think it's best to let the heart decide.  If for me, that means it will forever decide to love women, and thus I'm straight, so be it.  But it seems foolish to ignore it if it were to decide something else.  I don't think you can always accurately predict who you'll fall for, but if you fall for someone, recognize it and embrace it.

In my life, I've been attracted to several women (fortunately the one who felt the same way was the one I married!).  But there's a ton of women I've not been attracted to.  Attraction is more than a label or a gender.