She's on a low dose of E and an unknown dose of spironolactone.
As for you, after such a long time, I'd have asked my doctor long ago if I were you. If you haven't seen anything at all, your dose is clearly insufficient, and you've been more or less losing your time for 12 years, if you ask me.
If you've seen something but find the final effects dissatisfying, well, I don't know what to say. I don't know how old you are, but maybe you got a combination of a very unlucky low sensitivity to treatment and too advanced an age for starting...
Either way, I'm still convinced that SOMETHING should be felt quite fast after beginning the treatment, normally, even if it's obviously not much.
Eve, I'm sure you'll be all right with a dose adjustment. Trust your endocrinologist.