Hi and welcome from yet another of the Aussie contingent.
A good Gender Therapist can help you work out where you are on the gender spectrum, and help you ask the questions you probably can't articulate. I know mine did, and still does.
Some people here have always known who they were, but others end up taking years to get the idea. It sounds like you have got a good start towards resolving your issues.
Remember to be as kind to yourself as you would be to your best friend, and take your time. It's a steep learning curve, but I think everyone here will say it is worth it.
Eat slow and have fun.
Karen.