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Dreaming in the (as the) other gender...

Started by auburnAubrey, April 29, 2012, 09:11:17 AM

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When I dream, I am:

Always my biological gender.
2 (2.4%)
Almost always my biological gender, but have a few dreams as the opposite sex.
16 (19%)
Mostly my biological gender, but I have a lot of dreams as the opposite sex.
17 (20.2%)
I dream about 50 % of the time as the opposite sex.
13 (15.5%)
Mostly the opposite sex, but I have a lot of dreams as my biological gender.
4 (4.8%)
Almost always the opposite sex, but have a few dreams as my biological gender.
21 (25%)
Always the opposite sex.
11 (13.1%)

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Michelle G

Quote from: A on April 30, 2012, 07:50:10 PM
I just remembered this dream/nightmare I often had as a child (at least 100 times), and a little research on the website on which I found the above explanations just stunned me. So much I decided to double post I can't believe I dreamed of something so strongly connotative of transsexualism and never realized it. A few tears even came thinking of it, whilst I don't really cry often.

(Actually, this is exceedingly long and off-topic, so I'll post it on my blog instead. The link is in my signature.)

Thanx A, a lot of that really makes sense, I am not really "disgusted" or uncomfortable at other naked people at all, and for a lot of years would enjoy nude beaches etc. because of the good "personal freedom " vibe they had.

I think these two lines might say it best as to what I feel,

QuoteTo dream that you are naked denotes fear of being found out and exposed over your activities. You feel that you are being misjudged.

To dream that you suddenly discover your nudity and are trying to cover up signifies your vulnerability to a situation.
Just a "California Girl" trying to enjoy each sunny day
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A

Happy to be of assistance.

As a side note, I finally posted on my blog.
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Kadri

Well, I just had the first clear dream of myself as I am now (living full-time but pre-op) just last night, and I woke up very happy about it!

Reading this thread reminded me that once a few months back, I had dreamt about myself as male having sex with a woman, and I felt all yucky about it when I woke up. 

Before my female inner core became clear to me, I used to dream on and off about a woman who understood me completely, I used to feel very comfortable with her there and very sad when I woke up and realised that it was a dream. More recently I find the nice feeling of the dream is alive in me every day, and that I have ended up looking and dressing rather like her! So I wonder sometimes if that was my true self trying to express itself through the repressed tangle of ideas that was my former life. 
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Stephanie.Izann

I dream as both. It's as if my brain knows I haven't truly transitioned yet or something. As I get closer to going full time, my dreams seem to have more of a female me.
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Marion

I mainly dream as a boy. This didn't strike me as weird before I acknowledged myself as trans, strangely enough. The dreams where I'm enough of a person to have hair, clothes, a face, etc are all boy-dreams.
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A

Hm, it seems that boys have a higher rate of dreaming as the right gender, regardless of the stage of transition. I guess you guys are more straightforward, eh.
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Marion

We certainly face less in the way of societal roadblocks/conditioning that tells us it's not okay. I wonder if that plays into it.
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JayKyle

Quote from: Marion on May 04, 2012, 04:34:56 PM
We certainly face less in the way of societal roadblocks/conditioning that tells us it's not okay. I wonder if that plays into it.

I'm also a complete Narcisist in my dreams too ^o^
Being me is the way it should be.
God made me this way so get used to it XD
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PixieBoy

I'm a guy in my dreams, with a cisguy body. In some nightmares I am a trans guy, but that's merely because the nightmare is about being the victim of a hate crime (watching Boys Don't Cry before bed? NOT a good idea). In other nightmares, I'm a girl, that kind of girl who gets killed by a monster/murderer/whatever in horror films.
...that fey-looking freak kid with too many books and too much bodily fat
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Marion

Quote from: PixieBoy on May 06, 2012, 06:19:20 AM
I'm a guy in my dreams, with a cisguy body.

I've just realized I don't have any idea what my genitalia are in my dreams. I definitely don't have breasts, but I'm not sure if I have a cock or not. My dreams are like video games in that there's a lot of drama but no going to the bathroom, so it's not like there'd be an opportunity to know. (I don't have sex dreams ever for some reason.)
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Kelly J. P.

 It's been a very long time since I have dreamt myself male... I am almost always female in my dreams, and I always am in recent memory.

For a MtF, these dreams are very comforting. :)
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auburnAubrey

I had a dream the other night where these two big guys were getting aggressive towards my best friend, and I was female.  I always have dreams that I am rescuing her, and have always been male in those dreams.  But I was female in this one, and I wasn't able to defend her.  Even though I am well versed in martial arts, I didn't know them in my dream, and I was kind of tossed around......

Not a great way to start dreaming as a woman.....  I'm sure Freud would have a field day with this one...
"To live both the yin and the yang, the male and the female, is a divine gift." ~ Me

"Know the masculine, but keep to the feminine, and become a watershed to the world". ~ The Tao Te Ching
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Ms Bev

My dream gender transitioned with me, gradually at first, then very rapidly.  It's been so long, I don't remember.  I'm always me, female, in female social situations.  I always dream as a gay woman.  I wear gender appropriate clothes in my dreams, use gender appropriate restrooms which are always waay below cleanliness standards (maybe that's a good therapy area *L*).
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2.) The more I talk to my married friends, the more I
     appreciate  having a wife.
Marcy
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King Malachite

99 percent of the time I'm a biological female like in my everyday life.  To be honest I've only had my first male-bodied dream a few weeks ago and I was having sexual intercourse but it wasn't pleasurable as I couldn't get it up.

Sad life.
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Michelle G

Had an amazing dream last night that I was finally in girl mode while dealing with my "alpha male" customers, my hair was long enough to put into cute blond pigtails and I was wearing shorts and a tank top...in the dream it was business as usual as if nothing was different...a happy omen I hope!! :)

btw, my hair is growing out nicely and I'm so excited to have it as long as I want, I have natural blond hair but have never had it this long before, I have always been asked if its my real color, lol  And my wife spends a LOT to get hers about the same shade ;)
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Kelly-087

Nothing really fit me well.

but Generally Im female or TS. In that I either have my ideal female body.. Or I have a  nice body that has feminine form, breasts, face, but I still have the boy parts. I've hard several dreams where I look in the mirror, notice my hair is longer and start to think "Oh no I better cut it before people suspect what I am!" but then my face will grow very feminine and pretty and I'll be like "Oh well.. maybe I'll just be fine."

If I'm a man, it's rare but Im not myself. I'm some random guy I've seen. It's rare as I only recall this like once.

Generally when I'm myself and male, Im extremely androgynous. Basically to the point that I know I'm male, but look entirely as a girl
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Jared

Most in my dreams I'm male and as I wake up I realize it's not true yet -.-" Maybe that's why I don't really like dreaming. Or waking up.
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Edge

Well, in my dream last night, I switched between being male and female.
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aleon515

@Edge-- well fits being genderfluid?

Anyway, I usually dream sort of being agender or genderqueer (wouldn't have known the word). The gender I have is not actually known.

But last night I had a weird gendering dream. I was getting a tattoo at a hospital clinic (yep stupid huh?) and it was really not a very good tattoo, kind a square with different colors inside. Anyway, I was in the women's section in the the clinic for the first part of it, and they get to the very last color which they were going to fill in and then  they said. "To finish this tattoo you have to go over to ______ clinic", which turned out to be the men's clinic. I asked why but they were not able to tell me. I started going over and then I woke up and said "weird" aloud. And then my second thought was "that's a really stupid tattoo".

I actually thought this might be a kind of significant dream.
The pattern was a square with different colors inside. Funny thing but the one they needed to fill in was blue.


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Sara Murphy

I have only had one dream, to this point, where I appeared as female.

I do not remember a lot about the dream itself other than it was in black and white and it seemed like I was living out an action adventure video game.  A lot of running around, jumping, dodging baddies.  Anyway, having survived whatever was going on, I walk into the bathroom and look at myself in the mirror and it's me in boy mode.  Than I bend down below the mirror to splash water on my face.  When I come back up to look in the mirror again and everything is now in color and I see myself, for the first time ever, as a girl.  Nothing outlandish, just a girl in a hoody with brownish hair pulled back in a disheveled ponytail.

Do you remember falling asleep in high school and all of a sudden you dream that you are falling and you wake up with a jump?  That is what it was like.  So, at 4:14am on July 4th I jump out of bed after seeing myself in this dream and the only words out of my mouth were "what the f... was that?"

Meaningful, maybe. 
Memorable, absolutely.
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