Might come off as an immature scenario, but nonetheless here's the scoop.

I live with my parents and they know that I'm transitioning to female. I'm not too far in that process and it'll be quite some time before I'm living as a female.
So with that said, I don't want to tell them what name I wish to go by yet. It's just an uncomfortable topic with them and I'd rather they not know of another name until I can really represent it better.

However, most of my friends don't even know of my birth name and they never will. It's going to be a part of my past and I'd like it to stay there so I have no interest in telling every person I meet that I'm a transsexual. Being a transsexual I obviously have nothing against them, but to the general population I prefer to be seen as an "ordinary" female.


So with that said, I have a friend that wants to mail me something. Chances are my parents will see what's sent. My friend will put my name on it of course which isn't my birth name and I don't want my parents to see that. But I'm not telling the friend to put my birth name on it.

Any ideas on how I can get ahold of the package without telling my parents the name I use just yet?
No responses like "omg u shud just tel dem nao" please.
Thanks.

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The only thing I can think of is have him use initials so that you'll know it's for you without telling the parents your chosen name (until you're ready).

Or use a PO Box account? If there are such things where you are. You can have anything you wish then delivered to you in private.

Emmy.

Tough one love. But if I may look at this slightly differently.

Many people have nicknames. I used to know a guy, for example, I only knew as Hammy. His real name was John, so you can see, there was no resemblance.

I know that his family never called him Hammy. I once saw his younger sister briefly taunting him with it, but she quickly stopped.

I and most people I knew who knew him never called him John.

Yet of the few occasions when I was in his home, I and others called him Hammy, hence the incident with his sister.

Do you see what I'm getting at here? It's up to you to deal with how others relate to you. People who want to communicate with you will call you what makes  you comfortable. People who don't aren't worth communicating with.

Yeah, Try not to over scare yourself, It's probably less serious than you think ~ Let me think ~

If you want to bold face lie you can say to your friend, "Can you address it to my cousin, <Your birth name here>, because if my parents see it address to me they will probably open it." Not unusual for a kid of any age to be worried about parents fiddling with mail.

If you want to be more subtle, "Can you just put my initials on it?" Honestly, They might ask why, but they will probably do what you ask without questioning it too much because it's not that unusual.

Alternatively you can simply ask your friend to write "Lastname" or "Miss Lastname", The Miss is something your mother wouldn't be addressed as and isn't as typical as Ms or Mrs. so you will know it's your package.

Maybe address it to a fictional character followed by your last name? 

Thanks all

@SourCandy
While that'd probably go over okay, I'm not much of a liar. Plus I'm about 20 so my parents never touch anything with my name on it.
Just going with nothing but my last name would work. I was going to do that, but I'm still sorta' worried there will be a letter or something inside.

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I'm still considering just going with my last name, but I'm also thinking of setting up a p.o. box. It could come in handy to have one anyways. The only other option I can think of would be to just have it delivered to the house next door to me considering no one has lived there in ages.

Is there a chance your parents would open something with just your last name thinking it's for them?  Maybe the person sending you something could draw an image or symbols on it that would imply it's meant for you (though nothing that would out you to your parents)