I had thought I had a handle on things at work.  Not so sure now.  I talked to my HR Director aboout coming out to the people I work with.  I was thinking that maybe have a meeting with the supervisors first to alert them and make a plan.  the HR guy says he would just call the supervisors  and say that I was coming out.  And that I should talk to my immediate boss then about it.  They do not want anyone to come in and do TG training or make a big deal about it.  Just tell them of the change and that respect is still the word.  I am not feeling good about this.  The HR would not even listen to my concerns regarding the people I work with.    I am upset about the turn of events.  Much the downer right now.  I hope tyhings will turn out better than I expect from the company I work for.  But, I see no real option except to go ahead. 

That is exactly as I did it at work and I'm glad there was no big meeting and 'TG training' It actually made things easier. My immediate boss went to the individuals I work alongside of and talked to them one on one regarding harassment etc. No big problems and the little ones were dealt with discretely so the other person suffered no embarrassment and was able to work with me whether or not they liked me.

  Thank you Lordkat.  That sounds encouraging.  There are some issues with the lack of trust in management though. 

I was fortunate to have a supervisor who holds me in high regard. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find, as I did, some surprising allies.

I simple gave a transition package to my employer and set a date.  On that date I went back to work as me.  And HR made sure that there were no hassles.

and now the EEOC has ruled that if one is fired for gender expression (Transitioning), it is a violation of Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964.

Just like age discrimination, how would you prove gender discrimination unless they came right out and said it.

Glad to hear that bit of info, Ms. O'Brien. 

Diane, I would think that if you have evidence of prior satisfactory performance (maybe a review where
you've gotten an excellent or exceeds expectations) then show a dismissal shortly after coming out, at the very least it'll call their actions into question by an outside observer.
I wonder if we can find any information on google about relevant challenges or court cases?