I wanted to get you girls' experiences on raising boys as an MTF. I have this feeling that I would rather just have girls. I know it sounds incredibly sexist and lesbian couples are in no way disadvantaged as regards the raising of boys but I fear that I would not be a great parent to a boy. Of course this could be me just over-thinking something possible in the future and when that time comes and if it is a boy it'll probably be fine.

Did raising boys cause you dysphoria? I imagine that the answer depends on whether you have or haven't (yet) transitioned. 
Just wanted to hear what your thoughts on the matter were.

(Boys, feel free to give your experience on raising girls if you read this).

i originally read this as you if you were trying to force boys to be mtf if they arent , i was like WHOA insane  haahaha

Do the whole gender-neutral upbringing thing. Overgendering kids doesn't make any sense to me.

Dialogue from the film, Mrs Doubtfire

Daniel: [Posing as a caller for the housekeeper ad, this time with a German accent] Yeah, my name is Elsa Emmelman, and I want to know how many children do you have.
Miranda: I have two girls and a boy.
Daniel: Oh, a boy... I don't "werk" with the males, 'cause I used to be one.
Miranda: [hangs up] Yikes!

I think you're really asking how to raise your kids "as a lesbian," because raising your kids as an MTF doesn't have to be any different than raising your kids as a normal woman... a woman would not normally be expected to be a "father figure" and an MTF wouldn't either if there were a father around to do that instead. Of course, most lesbians can't actually father a child... but you're not forced to go down that route either.

Quote from: Stealthy on June 14, 2012, 05:10:08 PM
Do the whole gender-neutral upbringing thing. "Overgendering" kids doesn't make any sense to me.

I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as it's not forced.

I believe it is a fairly well accepted fact that most fathers do prefer to have a girl while mothers prefer boys. Some may say that she represents his repressed feminine side and the converse for the moms. If I had kids I'd really love to have a girl. I know all too well there is little chance of changing the pressures most guys are under to be idiots. LOL

I have a friend and, her and her wife (lesbian couple) are raising a boy.  Children are children regardless of the gender.

I'm not a lesbian, but thought I'd share anyway...

I have a three year old son, and there is no added dysphoria, or any issues in regards to being trans for that matter, as a result of him being a boy.  I am raising him as a son/boy, though nothing is forced.  For me personally, I would rather have a boy than a girl, just to be honest.

I have a son that is 4 years and a half.. No problems raising him at all, he doesnt even question why I look like a girl at home  (I am not full time yet). It is actually nice to see that he is everything that I was not .

But other children and parents concerns me because I know how close minded alot of people are around here.

Thanks. I guess I have no reason to worry then. 

Quote from: mementomori on June 14, 2012, 06:46:45 AM
i originally read this as you if you were trying to force boys to be mtf if they arent , i was like WHOA insane  haahaha

Me too. What is wrong with my brain?!