Quote from: Andy8715 on June 18, 2012, 07:18:54 PM
Now if you pay them rent/utilities/are basically a tenant and have drawn up some sort of contract stating what rules there would be/what would be enforceable/etc, that's another thing.

Andy brings up something good.  Is there anyway you could speak with your parents about helping them with rent?  I don't mean full apartment type rent but perhaps like $50 - $250 a month depending on what you could afford on minimum wage in exchange for more freedom. 

I'm really sorry you have to go through that.  I feel your pain.  I'm 20 and my mom said I can't cut my hair as long as I'm under her roof because of her Biblical views.

I do agree with Cindy to make a plan.  If they don't accept your rent offer for more freedom then do what you can to get the heck out of there.  Save up what you can and perhaps try to look into a room mate to help split the rent.

Quote from: Twin Hammer Tommy on June 18, 2012, 08:17:39 PM
in terms of what he wears?  really?  how far are you willing to take that?

Those comments are kind of uncool, IMO.  I mean, the guy's well aware of the situation with his parents.  You don't have to be like "suck it up, bro".  People come here for support.

Anyway, good luck getting out on your own, OP.    And good luck with your parents in the meantime.

Fair enough.

What is his alternative?

Getting kicked out and onto the street?  Sometimes you have to pick the lesser of two evils.  I would never tell anyone to become homeless on principle.

Thanks everyone for the support and advice. 

I don't really think they would go as far as to kick me out, however I'm also not the type of person to go against my parents requests... generally.  From what I understand, whenever my mom sees me wearing my binder it bothers her; so I guess she's taking my being trans pretty hard.  I think the main issue here isn't really the binder, but the fact that she won't talk about it.  I think that talking would help diffuse the situation a little bit... or maybe I'm wrong.  I don't know.  Until then I guess I'm just going to have to sneak out of the house whenever I want to wear my binder. 

If I went against my parents wishes, I think the most that would happen is that my relationship with them would become even more strained.  I'd rather not strain it anymore than I have to.

The whole moving out thing... a friend asked if I wanted to share an apartment after her current lease is over (she can't stand her current roommate).  So I just need to hold out a little while longer.

For now I might try the whole rent thing like Malachite suggested, but I don't really think it'll work.  Still worth a shot though.

I am glad you are considering your alternatives.

Good luck to you.

It sounds like you *are* making plans and getting on with your life. I understand both points of view-- both not rocking the boat (around parents that are antagonistic) and doing as you please, after all it is your body. But the idea of making plans seems eminently sensible.

There is also the reality of getting financial support from one's parents. I had a lot of problems earlier in my life and they would not necessarily pull this out, but it was always there in reserve. They were supporting me financially.

--Jay Jay