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Anyone else scared of harassment/bullying/trans phobia?

Started by Josh, June 04, 2012, 02:24:12 PM

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Transboi

I am, but mostly at night walking home from the bar or in the bar's washroom. When men drink they tend to be aggressive. I worry because I often come across as a gay man, which is what they might take offends to. I'm well-tattooed and pierced, and I think this gives me street cred. I also can put on a hostile air, which helps. I'm afraid most in the washroom, being found out to have the 'wrong equipment', and assaulted sexually. I've experienced sexual assault as a female, and just don't think I'd make it through another assault.

But, I'm getting more brazen, realizing I have just as much of a right to be free and human whenever I want. Last weekend at the bar, I went into the washroom, and of course there was only one stall. The door was kind of ripped off. I was like, '->-bleeped-<- it', and pulled my pants down and peed even with a couple of men in there. I think confidence takes you far. I went per twice that night. Men are so anxious in washrooms, they seriously only watch their own ->-bleeped-<- and do not make eye contact. It's been eight years of being transitioned, so I'm glad I'm finally taking up space.
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Ayden

No. If anything I just think "well, some jobs might be a little harder to get". But It seems silly to me to worry so much for a few reasons. The first being, people will dislike someone or even hate them for any number of reasons, and if I wanted to spend all my time being afraid that they might cause me some sort of harm I would never leave my house. The second being holding that kind of fear gives someone else power over me that they don't deserve.

But, I this is just me. I always was a 'jump now and figure it out later' kind of person.
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jasper3

I've always been getting beaten up by guys and girk's alike because I'm a "teachers pet" or a "know it all"... And I'm afraid if I do come out of the closet to people at school, who've known me and tortured me since preschool, I might get even worse treatment. One guy even punched me in the face in the middle of class because I was stating how uncivilised he was being making fun of a boy just because he was shorter, and him knowing only that I'm female, punched me in the face.
I'm terrified that even worse things could happen.
I'm getting a feely feel.. A feely feel that feels.... Feely O.o
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peky

Scare? afraid? paranoid? No, but always in "situational awareness mode." Most of the time I never live home with out my doggie (Colt .45 ACP).

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Traivs

It's very rare for me to actually be scared aware yes sometimes very nervous though like a few weekends ago i went out with some friends to the only local gay bar, thats where they wanted to go and I had a gay man grab my shirt to pull me towards him when he was trying to flirt with me again. I got super nervous and weird cause i haven't had top surgery yet. Plus i haven't got beat up in a years i used too all the time for being weird or a lesbian but as a trans man i haven't yet so I am not to worried plus i live in a very liberal open minded area
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