ok guys it's finally happened i met this girl and all is going great we aren't to serious yet.  but when we do eventually start getting serious i would like to be able to you know perform  for her. can any one recommend a good not to expensive but natural looking pack and play or just play

I don't like pack-n-play cocks - they always look unnatural IMHO when you pack (i.e. - a hard-on) and they're usually a bit bendy for play.  I just pack and play separately.  For play, I use the Doc Johnson UR3 6" cock:

http://www.docjohnson.com/dongs-dildos/realistic.html