Hey guys,
I don't post very often but I enjoy coming on the site and seeing what everybody has to say.  This is such an awesome resource, especially since I don't know anyone (personally) in the same boat as me. 
That being said, I just moved from Windsor to Guelph last month and so far I've been completely stealth.  I'm living with a roommate and she has no clue and everywhere I've gone so far I've never been referred to with female pronouns, so I guess so far so good.  I'll be less stressed when I manage to find a job though, but that's another story 
I've been thinking lately about getting back in the dating game.  My last girlfriend was 4 years ago and I had one casual relationship about 2 summers ago.  I've been feeling more confident now that I'm not living in a city where so many people know me as I was before.  My dilemma is how to go about meeting someone here.  I don't know how upfront I should be.  I mean, is it easier to just be out and then if someone is interested in me at least I'll know they like me for me and they're cool with me being different?  I just don't really know what I should do here.  I enjoy living stealth, it's something I was never able to do before I moved and I really don't want to screw that up.  But I also have been extremely lonely for a long time and I don't want to keep myself isolated forever.  So if anyone has been in the same boat and has any advice or personal experiences I'd love to hear them.  Thanks a lot guys.

Hey,

FIrst off, I hope you settle into your new surroundings soon
As for meeting people, I woul suggest finding local clubs etc that youd be into. Maybe aswell find some voluntary work for while youre looking for paid work. All of this will help you to continue to build your confidence, help you enjoy yourself and pass the time and be a great way to meet people. That is, for both friendship and possible dating.

As for when you do meet someone, should you have been open beforehand, or disclose later, well it kind of depends on how you feel about that. Some people prefer to be open and then, like you said, if someone is interested, theyre interested and already know/already have accepted you.
I on the other hand, never  tell people unless it is absolutely necessary (i.e managers for background checks, and when I began dating my girlfriend etc).
Id rather get to know someone. That way I can spend time to get to know them and see if I really do like them and also you can begin to sort of read that person. That should help give a good idea of how theyd take things. With my girlfriend, when we just liked eachother and she didnt know about me yet. I mentioned the "friend" Id known in school who has transitioned, just to get an idea of how shed react :p
But, this doesnt really help too much actually, as she didnt really get it. Shed not heard of trans people before. But she is absolutely amazing. All I needed to do was explain once, and that was that.
   I personally think its best to get to know someone first and then tell them when the time is right, obviously before it gets too serious, but you know its going somewhere. This also suits me because I am fully stealth, and wouldnt ever compromise that because not live as stealth, I just dont identify with that at all.