I believe that...
I know that I went through periods where I tried to over-emphasize my masculine side in an effort to avoid harassment for just being myself. I convinced myself that I could define my gender identity by choice. Still had dreams I was female on occasion mind you. Did things as mundane as keeping facial hair as a sort of "barrier" to wanting to present as female.
...silly really, but I get it...having feminine traits causes grief, so the first move is to drive them out. I'm glad I don't think that way anymore but, with a wife and family, I don't know exactly what to do about it, I just know that Josie is here to stay.