Hello all! My name is Nick I am a 22 year old male. I stumbled on this website and decided that it seems like a good place to voice what I have been dealing with since I was about 3 years old. I am now finally admitting to myself that I should not have been born male. I am wondering if anyone has any advice to give a pre-hormone TS who is struggling with how to come out to her parents, I am pretty sure my mom knows already, but i am too embarrassed to tell her. She knows I used to CD when I was younger, but I am not sure if my parents would accept me, also I have been trying to work myself up to it, but I keep retreating before I even get off the line. Also I was wondering if any of you know of any gender therapists in central Ohio. I'm glad that I have finally found a place that will allow me to voice my inner thoughts. I don't know how to end this or if this was correct to post here but I'm new here and would love to hear from people who have had similar situations to mine.

Thank you all,
Nick

Hi Nick 

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Glad you are here Nick.  Welcome from southern California.

You might want to look at the "Coming Out" board.

Thank you Jamie! I actually just worked my way over there, but thank you none the less for your recommendation!

Hi Nick,

Welcome to our little family. Over 7601  strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another member.


Janet 

Hi Nick,

A big Aussie welcome to Susan's family. Congratulations for taking that very big first step. You need to be proud of yourself.

In answer to your question about coming out to your parents, perhaps a bit of time with an experienced gender therapist who can help you in the process of understanding yourself. I've found if you have a clear perspective of yourself, you are far more confident in conveying your predilections to whatever audience you have in mind.

Keep in touch and let us know how you are coping.

Be safe, well and happy.

Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Thank you all for leading me to the coming out section. I came out to my mom yesterday and she basically said that she knew all along, kinda wish she had let me know that ahead like when I was a little younger but no harm done. Now just to find a gender therapist to get me on my way to becoming who I really am! When I get to post pictures I will formally introduce myself! Thank you all again and I'll be keeping in touch!

Hi Nick,

Isn't that just the worse? Not even our parents tell us the good news. They let us discover it for ourselves.     

You need 15 posts before you can post a pix and use PM plus a whole heap of good stuff.

Congratulations. Your journey has now really started. I'm just soooooo happy for you.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Hi Nick, it's nice to meet you! OK, hurdle cleared with mom! Off to the next challenge. Have fun posting and I'll see you around. Hugs, Devlyn

Yep I cleared Mom, now to talk to my Dad who is the one with the potential to go as bad as anyone could imagine. Also Mom told me to look up therapists in the area where I live and I had already did that the day I signed up on here! You all are really helping! I'm keeping faith that he is understanding just like my mom but I'll let y'all know!

Hi Nick,

Just remember when you see your Dad, just keep it real simple. Start by reminding your Dad, this IS NOT a choice. It's a well documented MEDICAL disorder. He had NOTHING to do with it, YOU had nothing to do with it and your MUM had nothing to do with it. It's purely and simply a genetic/hormone thing. Nothing more, nothing less. NOBODY can fix it. It's just like any other birth defect.

Simple. Just takes the pressure off everyone. No one is at fault, no one to blame. THIS IS NOT A CHOICE!!! end statement.

Hope it goes well for you. Let us know how you are coping.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine

Catherine, thank you for your advice I will be employing it when I decide to come out to my father. Also the other day when I was out and about (as Rachel) people had to look twice to decide if I was a female or male! I believe i can somewhat pass, and I'm not even on hormones yet! Im just glad I live in an accepting state! Glad to have residency in the great state of Ohio!!!

Quote from: Prankster756 on August 01, 2012, 09:36:00 AM
Also the other day when I was out and about (as Rachel) people had to look twice to decide if I was a female or male! I believe i can somewhat pass, and I'm not even on hormones yet!

Hi Nick,

Thank you for your appreciation. That's what we are here for, as family, to help anywhere we can.

I've spent a bit of time observing crowd behaviour in the past. What I found is a lot of our self consciousness is misplaced. We are often petrified someone will identify us and 'out' us most inappropriately.

In fact, I've found people often take a 'double' look, just to convince themselves we look as good as we do. It's often the 'WOW' factor. 'Boy she looks good' is more the reason they look that way

So probably Rachel does look more than convincing.

Be safe, well and happy
Lotsa huggs
Catherine