Indeed...
Someday people will understand that 'androgynous' is a presentation that anyone can do.
I am an Androgyn, therefore my presentation would be 'androgyn', as opposed to 'androgynous'.
If I happen to look 'androgynous', I don't. I am an Androgyn, so my presentation would be called 'androgyn'.
Even if it has an 'androgynous' look to it.
But since 'androgynous' is a broad representation, you could use 'androgynous'.
If you are not an Androgyn, and have an 'androgyn' look, you don't. You're not an Androgyn.
You would simply look, 'androgynous'.
As a poor, but usable way, replace the word Androgyn with Elephant.
See why that works that way?
Why is this so hard?
Also, nicknames have a way of being demeaning, taking away from who a person is.
Using the same poor example, you wouldn't say 'Hey Elephie'.
It would be demeaning to the status of an Elephant, because it could be used in a demeaning way.
Especially to an Elephant who has never heard or used, or would want to use, the word 'Elephie'.
When used in a personal way, with someone you know, they can be acceptable.
We do this all the time.
But they are especially demeaning when used improperly by well meaning people who are not.
It is partly why I have chosen to use the term 'non-binary', when referring to my gender.
It is harder to say, but is correct. It doesn't work to use a nickname for it.
Even though I am Androgyn. In most references to what I talk about, using 'non-binary' is more correct.
And someday people will get used to the idea that 'they' can be used as a singular pronoun.
If you are non-binary and I refer to you as 'they', you get it. Regardless of your preferred pronoun use.
When I know you personally and remember to, I will use whatever you prefer. We do that.
Why is that so hard?
*I, Me, they, is having a bad day.*
*I will,... get the ->-bleeped-<- over it*
Ativan
