Hello everyone! I'm new to the site and not 100% if I'm posting this in the correct forum, so forgive me if this isn't an appropriate topic 

Anyways, I primarily consider myself to be a bisexual female. Sometimes I feel as though I am a gay man trapped in a woman's body. For some reason I am only (physically and emotionally) attracted to gay and/or bisexual men. This wouldn't be as frustrating if I knew/met more bisexual men... I'm wondering why this is the case for me? MANY of my friends are gay men.  I always seem to vibe with them better -- not in an 'I love to shop too!' way, but a real connection. Gay men also happen to think I'm fabulous (can't blame them) which may be why I have mostly gay men as friends.

I will admit to having 'crushes' on a few of my gay friends. I affectionately term this, 'gushes.' I'm starting to believe that I'm pansexual, however I am very rarely attracted to hetero men, if ever, so this classification probably doesn't fully describe me. The women I am attracted to tend to be more 'masculine' lesbians. I've never been into lipstick lesbians - ever. Actually, I think I am more attracted to androgynous types. The gay/bi males I adore are not necessarily effeminate in appearance, but I'm not into 'bears,' per se.

I'm sorry if I'm confusing the crap out of you, hahaa. Believe me, I'm confusing the crap out of me, too

Any ideas as to what is going on with me? I feel as though I'm destined to be disappointed. I just want to emphasize that I'm not only emotionally attracted to these men, but sexually as well.

Thanks for any insight you may have to offer!
xo

I don't think you're confused at all, I think you know exactly who you fancy and who you don't - you just think it's maybe not alright .

Don't worry about it, there are really no rules that say who we're supposed to find attractive (well, some people try to impose them, but they're just personal guidelines dressed up as rules - pff). If you tend not to find hetero men attractive, for example, then so it is, that's not a big deal.

I'm inclined to call myself polysexual - that way, I don't have to worry that the fact that I don't find all types of everyone attractive doesn't fit my 'label' (I've never been comfortable with pansexual myself for that reason) - I just fancy some people, gender regardless. We all have our personal tastes. Enjoy yours .

Hi jazzedpeach. Welcome. You might want to consider posting a short bio in the Introductions forum, so we can get to know you better.

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Thanks for the replies! Padma, I appreciate your thoughtful response; I think I knew this in my mind, but just wanted to bounce how I was feeling off people



Jamie, can you help me with this part? I'm trying to add my pic/avatar and I don't see how. I also want to write a bio.

You don't get to add an avatar (and certain other privileges) until you've posted 15 times (no post-padding, though!) - this is to protect the forum from spambots and the like. Don't worry, you'd be amazed how fast the posts tot up once you get reading.

Ahhh! Cool, thanks Padma Does this apply for bio too? Or should I put a little blurb about myself in the 'signature' field?

Padma is our technical guru.  This ^^

Why not post a bio in the Introductions section of the forum - thus upping your post count?

On it! 

Done and done, sister friend

Oh well, I have seen what you describe in to women-born-women very close to me. One my ex, BTW.

Firstly, opposites attract, and I have seen this quite a lot. The issue seems in this case --- how much of this is socially acceptable in your own social circle?

What I also have seen over and gain, that social pressure, expectations of sticking with what most feel is "normal" will box you in.
It is THAT, what at least in younger years (sexually most active) leaves us, stuck, unfulfilled and frustrated.
Of course... gay men (it's why they gay...) are not into female anatomy, I know, I been there. They will like your attitude, your ways, alas NOT your body... not in the long run. If you try and both ignore this – you might be in for some pretty frustrating times. And this... I have observed also in pretty close detail, even with one child involved conceived from the connection, married, oh yes. In the end... SEX?
Hey, what was that again please?

So far my take on your situation and by what you have shared.

Axélle