Quote from: joann on August 22, 2012, 08:58:05 AM
I guess if I want to make contact with others of like mindI should advertise the fact and let people make up there own minds if they wish to make contact. Dont try to draw them out. Point taken.

But back to my original question. If I were to "advertise" what should I do,
A tee shirt that says "Androgyny now ask me how"?
The good ole rainbow pin?

If you were interested in connecting with lets say "Gender unique" people What would get your attention and make you tap on my shoulder and ask what do you mean by that?  (in a kind way)

I would say the best way is to meet up with like minded people at a group Transgender support meeting. From there, you all pretty much know in there "here and now" that you all are adrogen/trans/etc. This way, you don't have to take a gamble of offending someone or not by clocking them...because everyone pretty much knows who you are simply by participation.

From there, I would meet new people in those groups and develop friendships of like mindedness.

I used to be in the steps you are in right now. I had the trans bracelets and the trans flags. I was the trans rep for my school. It was trans this and that.

Eventually, something happened (not good or bad...just neutral) where I didn't really identify myself with being trans anymore. My facebook mentions nothing of it, my youtube videos that were trans related has been blocked from the public and my transblogs are limited. I just do not feel that way anymore. Not saying my way is right or wrong. But I am saying I can certainly relate to your question of "where can I talk about this other than an internet."

The groups is the first step. This way you can meet other people in a safe environment and then you can branch out from there.

I hope this helps!

I think i get it. For me my transition is the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm in love with it, infatuated. I want to reach out, share my transformation.
But others who have transitioned are glad its all over, an awkward time of the past, and just want to live there new lives in peace?
If i remain androgen I suspect i will never feel that. Ill always be in between.
Fair enough.
Maybe they will see my button and say "Maybe i could help hir "

Quote from: joann on August 22, 2012, 11:48:16 AM
I think i get it. For me my transition is the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm in love with it, infatuated. I want to reach out, share my transformation.
But others who have transitioned are glad its all over, an awkward time of the past, and just want to live there new lives in peace?

I know what you mean. In the beginning I was totally euphoric about the whole thing falling all over myself with joy and totally living it. I doused my friends, family and everyone I met with it. After about 1 year it kind of tapered off and at 3 years when I was all done I was very tired of it all quiet as a door mouse about the whole thing. In hindsight I think I was a little too out about it and probably should have kept a few things more private. For the past six year, up until a few months ago when I came here, I didn't talk about it, read about, watch youtube videos about it or visit websites about it. My husband obviously knows but we don't talk about it. I don't know if you will eventually follow the same pattern but I think it's a pretty common thing to just want to move on and let the past be the past once one has made it all the way through.

Quote from: MariaMx on August 22, 2012, 12:46:17 PM
I know what you mean. In the beginning I was totally euphoric about the whole thing falling all over myself with joy and totally living it. I doused my friends, family and everyone I met with it. After about 1 year it kind of tapered off and at 3 years when I was all done I was very tired of it all quiet as a door mouse about the whole thing. In hindsight I think I was a little too out about it and probably should have kept a few things more private. For the past six year, up until a few months ago when I came here, I didn't talk about it, read about, watch youtube videos about it or visit websites about it. My husband obviously knows but we don't talk about it. I don't know if you will eventually follow the same pattern but I think it's a pretty common thing to just want to move on and let the past be the past once one has made it all the way through.

Ditto, except husband. Husband? OMG, I'm so jealous!

I find it a lot like "finding religion."

When it happens, you jump from rooftop to rooftop announcing the wonderful event that has started in your life. You'll tell your friends, family, ..even complete strangers. You'll buy tshirts, ribbons, wrists bracelets, car bumper stickers and pins that affixed to your backpack or shirt.

After awhile, the level of excitement tends to go away. However, the important decision lies within yourself to determine on what level you continue with it.

I know some andros that settle back into a sense of "meh" and I've seen some that sports shirts than says "Ask me about me!" With rainbow clouds.

Either way is the right way and there is no wrong way

Quote from: Felicitá on August 22, 2012, 01:18:39 PM
Ditto, except husband. Husband? OMG, I'm so jealous!

Yes, a husband, indeed. He is pretty terrific and we have a very easy going  marriage with very little drama. I was so sure I would end up alone but things work out by them selves every now and then, ie. it just happened. Sometimes I wonder if I got married too "young" and missed out on some of the post-op adventures so many girls are talking about, but I'm a happy with my life now and that's really all that matters.

Quote from: MariaMx on August 22, 2012, 04:01:44 PM
Yes, a husband, indeed. He is pretty terrific and we have a very easy going  marriage with very little drama. I was so sure I would end up alone but things work out by them selves every now and then, ie. it just happened. Sometimes I wonder if I got married too "young" and missed out on some of the post-op adventures so many girls are talking about, but I'm a happy with my life now and that's really all that matters.

Glad to here that..

Two random thoughts:

Gender dysphoria to me is like an illness. Once you have your HRT and SRS, it is in remission, if not cured. I can't imagine wanting to chat about my cured illness to random strangers UNLESS I think I can help them do something I've already done. But I wouldn't trust any random stranger, TS or not, enough on a first meeting to do even that.

Other thing is it takes one to know one. Meaning, I guarantee all of us here can clock others of our family far more easily than a random stranger could clock us, simply because we've spend sometimes our entire lives studying those minute, myriad little things that make someone passable (or not) as the gender we'd like to present as. So while you're clocking that strange new tgirl in the grocery department, she's already clocked you too. You can just say hi and leave it at that, see where it goes from there.

I treat everyone with respect and courtesy. Their background and life's interests are theirs to share if they desire. I never ask or presume. My reason? I'm often wrong. It's best to keep my mouth shut for issues like this. I'm friendly to everyone I meet and I hold no favorites when it comes to "types" of people. Everyone is a treasure in some way. I do find myself defending the most unlikely people in a most public way, though It only happens a couple times a year. But if I hear someone making fun of someone or a minority to shame them, I will give them a loud verbal lashing that brings the wrath of any crowd down upon them. I know I've strayed from the question... bad Cindi... bad Cindi.

I'll share an embarrassingly harsh lesson I learned several years ago:

I was inspecting the exterior of a lady's home, and in the process was trying to break the ice with small talk and be personable. I had noticed that though she had a nice trim figure that she had a little tummy that looked like a baby bubble. We seemed to be hitting it off fine until I asked her when the new baby was due. She said, "I'm not pregnant, I'm just fat!"  That was a huge (OH SH**) moment. And you'd think I would have learned something, but NOOOO! I thought that she had just a great tan and so I proceeded to ask her where she got such a great tan out of season, assuming that she had been vacationing in Hawaii or Mexico. She said, "It's not a tan, I'm black!"  I was almost terminated by my employer who said that I was the first person he had ever met who could have both feet in their mouth and still walk! I'm embarrassed even now as I recall that incident, it's just plain stupid to make any comments to anyone who you know nothing about, in fact it could even show arrogance to assume that you know what's going on in their very personal life based on appearances when you know nothing about them.

Kinda late to this but just something I'd like to add.

Keep in mind the secondary effects that dealing with GID can have on people. Sometimes it can make people naturally introverted, withdrawn, or uncomfortable in social situations. This isn't the case for everyone, but something to be aware of whenever you interact with folks, even in a like-minded community environment, is that having something in common with a person doesn't always mean you have something in common with them, if you get what I'm trying to say.

Whether they are open about themselves or not, it may be the case that they feel awkward or anxious during interactions simply because in dealing with their inner self-determination, those feelings and behavioural processes are a by-product of it. I find it useful to observe the way someone is before making any sort of approach, even in a like-minded setting. Body language, mannerisms, overall comportment can tell you a lot about how someone will react and how any sort of conversation is likely to go.

Whether the prospective conversations are related to gender or not, GID can sometimes affect people in far reaching ways, not immediately apparent. Someone you don't know may not want to talk because they feel some things are a deeply personal matter, but some may just not know how to go about it because they're not used to human interaction, or anyone being interested in them.

Just something to keep in mind. Be patient, and watchful.