O.K. so I now have a problem that I need some advice about.  My breasts were already fairly large and after HRT they've gotten bigger.  I present as male and expect to do so for quite a bit longer by wearing large shirts.  But lately I have to be very careful and even wear some shirts unbuttoned times.  I thought that being overweight would hide them better but it's not helping.  Although a sports bra is a great way to hide without binding, it presents a problem since all my more normal relatives hug when greeting and they do show through at times. 

The incidents are:
First: While shopping a young couple in the same isle was staring at my chest.  I casually pretended to look down at canned goods and noticed my nipples were hard and poking a bit.  I finished shopping and while walking into the wind to my car, the same couple drove past and stared agian because my breasts were kind of flopping a little.
Second: At a local casino yesterday I had won at a slot machine and an older woman two machines down started talking to me.  Things were o.k. until I noticed her glancing at my chest every now and then.  I just moved to another machine.
Third: Today at a county fair it rained and I got wet.  While walking past the midway a barker said something to a couple other guys next to him and they turned around to look at me also.  It was a warm rain and the shirt was deffinately showing more that I had originally thought it would. 

So, I can't wear a bra unless I'm sure I'll be away from relatives, and a compression vest is terribly uncomfortable because of my weight.  Has anyone tried a smaller tee shirt or something similar? 
This isn't a big problem around my yard because I just wear real big tees.  It's just when I go out.

By the way. My sister-in-law surprised and embarased me the other day when she said "You look so much like your mother, but with a beard".  I can't have changed that much.

Well gotta get out of this parking lot and go home. (McDonalds)

Love, Kathy

Yes, they are not only hard to hide, but darn near impossible!

You are not alone.  I am begining to run on the treadmill in my cardio rehab sessions, and I am "bouncing" around a bit, and it hurts.

I am too much of a coward to wear a sports bra to rehab, while presenting as a male.  I note however, that most of the older genetic men there have moobs to one degree or another.

I have gotten used to it, I have really long hard Pokie nips and people stare at them all the time, I never gave it much thought back when I was hiding in boy mode for years on end, but now when I'm more "3D" and girly I don't mind at all actually, no stranger has ever mentioned them to me but if they did I would just act like I never noticed, lol

Some girls I know are a bit envious and that makes me very happy  that "I" have something they want   

 I am lucky(?) enough to only need to use a sports bra when I want mine hidden. It works fairly well.

I wear  sportsbra and I hide nothing I did get a sideways backward sort of compliment today. I either wear a skirt and top or leggings and tops to work. Today  wore a skirt and top. Two of the girls in my lab said, I prefer you in a skirt, your legs are too thin for leggings and we get jealous.

I did post before that I got long stares at the gym from one of the trainers who seemed fixated on watching my boobs bounce, so I let the air from the fan blow down my Tee to cool off, he was even more fixated, if that is possible

I think a rule of boob should be, if they bounce and the nipples are prominent it is time to come out to the world. 'cos they ain't going to get smaller

yes sports bra's help greatly but a little further down the road, transition seems to out you no the other way around and often choices need to be made if oyu are still pondering come out

and welcome to Womanhood btw

Quote from: kathy b on August 24, 2012, 12:54:07 AM
O.K. so I now have a problem that I need some advice about.  My breasts were already fairly large and after HRT they've gotten bigger.  I present as male and expect to do so for quite a bit longer by wearing large shirts. 

In the United Kingdom we have to prove we are living full time as female in order to get prescription HRT. If we are living as a male HRT is not usually prescribed especially if there is no commitment to present as female. I had to live as female for two years before I got prescription HRT.

Over in America you seem to be able to take whatever drugs you like including HRT no matter if you are full time or not without any medical supervision. I think you need to decide if you want to transition or not but while you live on the fence and remain presenting as male you should probably not be taking HRT if the commitment isn't there.

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on August 24, 2012, 05:05:16 AM
I had to live as female for two years before I got prescription HRT.

Ouch.

I feel as though the UK system has a bit of hazing involved as it could be very very hard for some to have any quality of life presenting as female pre HRT.  (Paint a bullseye on someones back, please make it hard for them!)

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I think you need to decide if you want to transition or not but while you live on the fence and remain presenting as male you should probably not be taking HRT if the commitment isn't there.

I think what Kathy is implying is that she isn't quite ready for full time yet and wants to minimise the curious looks for now.  There are often good reasons to get the groundwork done in the background while presenting as male before taking the plunge so to speak.

HRT effects vary wildly - low dose changes can be quite minimal, and many on the androgyne section find that that is sufficient to keep the ghosts at bay.

Oops, forgot to get back on topic:
If the ladies are that big, then your options are going to be pretty limited.  About the only option you have is to lose a decent amount of weight, and then hopefully the compression clothing can work and be more comfortable.

Sometime it is very hard to hide them.  If you are over weight and see them looking just smile and say "Moobs."

have you tried wearing tank tops that are a size or two too small.  Works pretty well unless you are huge.

good luck
Tanya

Sweetie unless you are at least a C cup, I cannot see the problem - at all.

Also I assume no BA is involved which makes it even easier because all is a lot softer...

So, I don't really know what are you're trying to tell us, not really.

Axélle

Im a 36D and i had the same issue after my BA. even with really large shirts hidding them can he hard. you can try humping over some. or coats?

Being overweight would also give reason to why you have "gynecomastia" ... so hiding it is less of an issue. In fact I would think you'd draw more attention to yourself if you tried to hide it.

I wear a seamless medium impact sports bra when in boy mode. It's pretty much invisible and if it does show, it looks like a tank top.

I pretty much gave up on trying to hide the girls quite awhile ago 

I am a good full A to a B cup. By using a shaper cami I do fine in guy mode with loose cotton shirts. I tend to avoid tee shirts in sweat or wet situations for the obvious reasons you note. The cami is a bit like a compression Tee but the cups make it a lot more comfortable.

I think no matter what you try, hugging will be a problem. Unless it is with your very large busted aunt    With close physsical contact, I can't see anything short of binding, and even that, working

What would you consider as the limit size that can be hidden?

I'm a believer in Spanx for Men:
http://spanx.com/family/index.jsp?categoryId=11530462&view=all

Then again, I haven't heard of anyone else using them while in boy mode.

Be proud and let em all hang out! I wish mine were bigger and I have the opposite problem of being insecure because my breasts are too small.

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on August 24, 2012, 05:05:16 AM

Over in America you seem to be able to take whatever drugs you like including HRT no matter if you are full time or not without any medical supervision. I think you need to decide if you want to transition or not but while you live on the fence and remain presenting as male you should probably not be taking HRT if the commitment isn't there.

Some people like myself have started out with the intention of going full-time and for one reason or another have a change of heart as to how they want to present. It pisses some post-op trans-women that I decided to present androgynously, but they don't have that right because they don't live in my skin. I spend most of my days in skinny jeans, T-shirts and a baseball cap. I have a trim and fit body and wear soft cup casual racerback bras preferably because I have boobs. I get clocked a lot as a tomboy, been called a butch lesbian and a fem-boy. It's a matter of personal choice. I transitioned to about 90% complete and stopped because I'm happy right here.