I really love these Jockey T-Shirts.   They are very stretchy, and I wear a large even though an XL would be a proper fit.

http://www.jockey.com/products/Jockey-Seamfree-Crew

I wear them to work out at the gym, and underneath other clothes.  They are a bit pricey, but I happened to catch a 70% off sale and bought a bunch.

I still get some stares, but since I'm going to have the girls for the rest of my life I figure I'd best get used to that.

You can be assured that natal females get plenty of looks. 

Having noticeable breasts helps quiet my dysphoria.   I no longer look at women with so much envy since I have more boobage than many of them.

Randi

Quote from: kathy b on August 24, 2012, 08:47:27 AM
I'm going to try and present male as long as practicle, so there has to be some article of clothing that will help.  Gonna go to Walmart and look for the longest and most strechy top I can find to pull the girls in. 

I use shapewear tanks. My fav's are from Barely There (style 4290) and Bali (style 8623). I have others too. I am a very full A going on B cup with a 38 band at this point. Alone they are very nearly invisible under even a snug t-shirt (so long as it is darker in color, and having a pattern or screen print on the front does even more to hide the girls.) If you wear a compression type sports bra under it, the girls are even more hidden. I have worn both the Bali and Barely There shapewear tanks under sun protective swim shirts and not gotten any untoward looks. It's usually the horizontal line of the band that gives wearing a bra away, so either avoid it or cover it up with shapewear. The shoulder straps of tanktops look plausibly like men's undershirts (sometimes called 'wifebeaters.') I google specific styles and brands and can usually find them 30 to 50% off list price.

The one or two times someone asked what I was wearing under my shirt, I just shrugged and said "it's like an undershirt." Once I even pulled the hem of my shirt up to show the black fabric of a Bali shapewear tank to prove it came all the way down. People will see what they expect to see and think they were mistaken about anything else, including feeling straps from a sports bra.

This is a good thing and has happened to me as well even though I am not over weight.

Even in boy mode I have a tendency(as long as I dont open my mouth) to get mam'ed.  It actually makes me feel good when someone says that subconciously.

Those that I know and deal with all the time don't notice because they saw the gradual changes and not one huge one.  As long as you dont make a big deal about it most people will not care to notice.


Of course I do feel self concious as well, not because they exist but because it feels kinda awkward to know someone might notice.

I wear a bullet proof vest so hiding them ain't so bad but I do wear a danskin tank under everything.

Kathy b,

I know exactly how you feel. I too, am a 44 B, but I do not try to hide it. I just go braless in man mode and don't worry about it.

I enjoy the feeling of having some boobage and that makes up for any inconvenience.

I recently had to resort to getting some tight wifebeaters to hide whats going on. Dark/patterned shirts are now must haves and several thin cotton shirts I used to wear have hit the goodwill pile.

I knew I was in trouble the day a guy leered at my chest for an entire, very uncomfortable (to me) elevator ride.

The summer stuff is on sale here in the west, and there are some good deals so I got one more sport tank.  There's a lot of stuff going on in life right now, so I'm holding off on getting anything else new for another week or two.

Kathy

Interesting topic...

Being real thin and muscular I used to wear tight t-shirts to work.

In the beginning, I could wear a spaghetti-strap wireless bra and get away with a loose dark shirt to hide my nips. Now that my girls have bloomed I now have to wear a cami or a tight fitting ribbed tank under my baggy work shirts now to keep from being "exposed". Actually I found the ribbed tank top to work best because it flattens out and lets the boob sag a bit and it doesn't have cups to hold or shape the boobs which actually accentuates them.

Most trans men are motivated with hiding their chest like most trans women are with tucking their package, I think, which is why they/we are willing to go all day no matter how stuffy or uncomfortable they/we are, and probably rationalize that someday the parts will be gone so putting up with the pain is mentally bearable. With trans women, we want our boobs and they aren't going away, so we typically won't tolerate the discomfort or pain of compressing them for long term.

For myself, work is the last place to come out, and it's a touchy subject with the job market we have; don't want to be jobless and trans. I figure that it's time to start drafting a coming-out letter or plans when the girls get to be real hard to hide

And if it's the nips that are mostly giving you away try tape, something gentle like painters tape, yeah on sweaty days you may have to reapply it but I have tried it a few times and it works with a tank top.

one more thing... My ex-wife advised me to wear a form wire-bra as often as possible, even to bed, as it will help shape the fatty deposits as your boobs grow; I've noticed that mine have shaped nicely doing this. Can't say or prove that flattening and compressing new boobies is or is not a good thing- just something to think about

This what I have had to deal with for many many years, growing up as a boy having really long nips and a tall skinny body was quite awkward at best, but now I really like it!

even in boy mode for work while wearing tighter tank tops I notice some "looks" but hey...its all me and all natural so thats just the way its gonna be

these darn things are 1" long when hard   (which is always)

Quote from: Michelle G on September 08, 2012, 12:32:00 PM
This what I have had to deal with for many many years, growing up as a boy having really long nips and a tall skinny body was quite awkward at best, but now I really like it!

even in boy mode for work while wearing tighter tank tops I notice some "looks" but hey...its all me and all natural so thats just the way its gonna be

these darn things are 1" long when hard   (which is always)

Hottie!

I'm in the same boat. As much as I hate to admit, when I have to "present" myself in M mode, I need to bind. I have been wearing baggy button up shirts more often, I don't bind when wearing them. I also droop my shoulders more when I walk. I know binding is bad but sometimes I have no choice. 

Quote from: Christine Eryn on September 08, 2012, 04:26:05 PM
I'm in the same boat. As much as I hate to admit, when I have to "present" myself in M mode, I need to bind. I have been wearing baggy button up shirts more often, I don't bind when wearing them. I also droop my shoulders more when I walk. I know binding is bad but sometimes I have no choice. 

I will never understand people who go on HRT and then complain they can't cover up the fact they now have boobs. If you want to stay male why do you want to go on HRT in the first place?

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on September 10, 2012, 06:26:38 AM
I will never understand people who go on HRT and then complain they can't cover up the fact they now have boobs. If you want to stay male why do you want to go on HRT in the first place?

Sometimes it may not be compatible with a current job, or when we need to conceal the changed from certain family members... or until enough confidence has been built. With my hideous unpassable face I'd like to keep those things hidden until it can be fixed.

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on September 10, 2012, 06:26:38 AM
I will never understand people who go on HRT and then complain they can't cover up the fact they now have boobs. If you want to stay male why do you want to go on HRT in the first place?

*points to Androgyne and HRT thread.*  Not everyone here fits in the binary.

There are some of us who want to be on low dose HRT to keep ourselves sane and are not in a position to transition.  The psych effects of HRT are mainly what those in that position are after, and some of the physical developments are less than desired and hence the desire to hide those changes.

Quote from: Naturally Blonde on September 10, 2012, 06:26:38 AM
I will never understand people who go on HRT and then complain they can't cover up the fact they now have boobs. If you want to stay male why do you want to go on HRT in the first place?

People come here who are transitioning and hope to receive support rather than criticism, they get plenty of that elsewhere, thank you!

Well said Shan! +1 for you!!

Quote from: luna nyan on September 10, 2012, 07:51:55 AM
*points to Androgyne and HRT thread.*  Not everyone here fits in the binary.

There are some of us who want to be on low dose HRT to keep ourselves sane and are not in a position to transition.  The psych effects of HRT are mainly what those in that position are after, and some of the physical developments are less than desired and hence the desire to hide those changes.

Good point.  While I certainly hope for breast development I am first and foremost looking to explore the psychological aspects.  I can't claim to fully understand where I'm going with this process yet and I don't think I can until I know more about how it makes me feel.  Chicken-and-egg conundrum?

It is irksome to read some of the responses to this thread which criticize HRT use by those not currently presenting female. The idea that one should only go on HRT if one wishes to adhere to one side of the fence or the other is problematic, archaic, and stale. The truth about humanity and gender is much more accurately depicted by a spectrum. Don't criticize her for not presenting female, she has chosen to grow breasts - she obviously has made a commitment to this decision. Perhaps we all need a little encouragement to get outside the gate at times, but we don't know the motivation for her varied presentation.

Furthermore, it is irrelevant if someone wishes to present as one thing or the other. We find what works for us. All too often I see trans women criticize one another based on personal insecurities, and the need to validate their own decisions through admonishment of another's alternative choices. Lets remember that we are each of us distinct, and our realities are valid. What works for you, may not work for the next girl.

As far as hiding breasts, diva...I don't have any useful advice on that. But I do encourage you in your process.

I would follow up Noah's post by saying that breasts will be somewhat a side-effect of HRT for me, not necessarily a make-or-break goal.  It is very likely I will have to hide them for a little while at least to prevent trouble at work.  This is a fair and practical need.  I am in an environment which is typical of society right now where a gay man is generally accepted for his alternative sexuality but non-binary gender is like a creepy disease.  It may be weird to think that I'd be more accepted as a fully-transitioned female but it is reality and pretty much what I see as my goal.  Avoiding conflict in between will be a necessity.  I've made minor changes to my appearance so far that have gotten notice but not enough to set off the 'trans-alarm'.  The only trouble I've had is that one of my male coworkers has started acting weird like as if he's hitting on me but I'm not interested in knowing more about it and have so far been able to avoid the issue reasonably well.

Dear, dear, dear
Let your breasts breath
Enjoy your feminity
Nothing like the feeling of my bouncing breasts
Reminds me about my reak self
I know people will stare
But it is the price
For our feminity