I've come out as trans* to my immediate family and close friends with zero rejection but I'm scared how things will go when my extended family find out what's going on with me, especially if I decide to transition completely. Luckily they all live very far away. 

Quote from: Ave on September 06, 2012, 05:51:24 PM
the same situation is happening with me, more or less. Family is so annoying

Have you started testosterone and been on it for two years?
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If not, your situation isn't quite the same.

Even my dad, who tries his best to be as supportive as he possibly can and also make sure everyone else is (he looks out for me), recently admitted he had a really hard time not slipping up early in my transition even though he was supportive of me - I just really didn't look all that much like a guy. And looking back, I agree with him. I can see how it might've been hard. The truth is a lot of us aren't built with a naturally masculine physique and have to work for it and have to start HRT in order to be represented how we want to be and are supposed to be. If you are Pre-HRT, I can see why some of your family may be struggling with it - to them, it's likely going to be a big chang, even though it may not seem like you're changing at all and just being truer to yourself. However, Elijah has been on testosterone for over two years and I think me, and anyone else here, would say he passes in all aspects and the way his grandmother is treating him (especially after all this time) shows that she is refusing to adjust to who he truly is and would rather make him feel like utter garbage instead - and it's pretty clear that it couldn't be anything else.

Quote"well, she is missing out"

Missing out on what? 

Don't let 'em grind you down Elijah.  It sounds like you handled the situation really well.

thanks everyone for your support, I just am glad I wont have to see her for a long time, unless someone else gets married or dies or something

My immediate family has been pretty supportive also, but my extended family includes all these right wing Evangelical Christian holier than thou Baptists who believe I am sin reincarnate.  I don't see my extended family much, but I recently saw them at a funeral.  Even at the funeral they were giving me the cold shoulder because they can not even set those things aside during a time of mourning when the focus is supposed to be elsewhere. 

Even though I try to be strong, it still hurts.  I am fortunate that I have a supportive immediate family and supportive friends and did not have to rely on extended family as my support network.