There's an old saying "if you want friends, be friendly".. I guess that's the "vibe" that's being talked about. When you're at peace with yourself internally people notice.
There is one aspect that had made me go hmmm.. As a male I managed a lot of people, I was fairly successful at this. People, on the whole, liked working for me. Though, for some, it took them time to "get used to me".. I strongly believe that this was because they perceived a man in power as threatening and here was I, this small, slightly effeminate person.. Still driven but empathic as opposed to aggressive.. As a management style it works but, as many of my bosses pointed out, it was unusual.. That is unless you realize I was a female..
You see now, I managed people very similar to how I used to, now though, it seems to make sense to people sooner. They tend to expect this type of style from a female manger. To this end I feel I actually connect better and quicker with my employees and not one boss has mentioned my unusual management style?
Gender is a funny concept, both internally and externally.
However, there is a closeness between women that isn't there in male contacts. I personally feel safer talking to a female stranger than a male.. As a woman, I'm aware that some, a small percentage of men, could pose a threat to me, so I'm very very slightly more wary and conservative in my interactions at first. This doesn't exist for females and as such in more open, and those interactions are more open. I think that's just a product of evolution. It's certainly not some sort of secret women's only club, it's just self preservation. That said when a guy starts up and flirts with you, I mean wow, that's the best feeling in the world. I don't court such interactions as I'm happily married, but when some dude turns around, looks at you and goes "wow" you can't help but feel special for that micro second. I like being a woman! Lol
