Hi Cynthia I see you are talking about the weather over there at the moment. All that snow, ice and blizzard activity sounds genuinely rough and it is clearly causing havoc for a lot of people. From a distance it is worrying rather than impressive. Meanwhile down here in Australia we are doing it tough in the opposite direction with a run of warm to hot days. Think 30C (90F), then 33C (96F), then 35C (95F) and just to be polite 39C (102F).
Compared to your 0F which is about -18C that is quite a lifestyle contrast. So if you happen to have some spare snow sitting in the driveway maybe put a few shovelfuls in an express parcel and send it our way. We promise to admire it briefly before it melts.
On a more serious note about why we are, "the way we are". I never really knew why I was, "the way I was" and to be honest I was never worried about it or even considered it an issue that needed answering. It was not until I first came to Susan's in 2010 and spent time reading posts and the wiki which Susan's had at the time that I gained an understanding about myself. For me the reason was basically biological.
Essentially nature stuffed up or environmental factors contributed to who we are. When this was revealed to me I accepted it for what it was as I realised there was nothing one could do about it. Even to this day my mind holds the thought that I would rather be a female than anything else. Even if there were a treatment for the condition I would refuse it hands down. Basically I like being me and I will never change that.
Quote from: CynthiaR on January 26, 2026, 06:08:54 AMI've come to understand that I was given a womans heart and soul, which allows me to love the way only a woman can.
What you just said is also "the way I am". The way I am is a truism for me without ever thinking about it. Except for the last part "to love the way only a woman can." I know this very personally and one of the main reasons that has prevailed "throughout my life", from when I changed my life around.
I used to worry about my shoulders until I noticed a fellow swimmer named Lisa Curry Kenny a national Australian swimmer who was visiting my home town before I changed my life around and realised she had bigger shoulders than me. That basically shut me up in my own mind on that issue. I am sure there are many females out there with larger shoulders than what you have.
In a similar vein I used to worry about the hairs on my arms which were auburn or ginger in colour. They were not excessive until I saw a female who had thick black hairs on her arms. As you can guess that again shut me up good and proper. I guess what I am trying to say is, that out there, there are females who are taller, broader and hairier than you are but the unmistakable fact is that they are still female.
So yes you are absolutely right. "You are not a mistake". You are "who you are".
Now on a lighter note you had better get back to shovelling that skier's delight. Just be sure to throw a decent amount in our direction so we can cool down properly down here.
Best Wishes AlwaysSarah BGlobal Moderator@CynthiaR
