'My daughter's partner treats her badly, wants a sex change, and is chatting up

[Shana A]

'My daughter's partner treats her badly, wants a sex change, and is chatting up my youngest girl'

Post your advice below. The best responses will be published in G2 next Friday

    guardian.co.uk, Thursday 30 June 2011 21.00 BST

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2011/jun/30/daughters-partner-treats-her-badly 🔗

My eldest daughter, 23, has been living with her 26-year-old boyfriend for four years – the past two at my house. He treats her dreadfully, speaks to her as if she's a servant, has no job, no ambition and two children with a previous partner he never sees. He has already cheated on my daughter twice and has now decided he wants to have a sex change.

I have no problems with transgender people, but I am deeply unhappy at this new turn of events. He and my eldest daughter haven't had sex for ages apparently yet he still tries to chat up my 20-year-old daughter. I cannot throw him out without my daughter going too, and she is too vulnerable.

[spacial]

The cheating seems to be the major issue here.

This person needs to get their marching orders. But it's the daughter's responsibility to do it.

[Vicky]

Help the fellow to a gelding, and the fidelity issue will solve itself.  Thats what works with a tom cat!!

[tekla]

If you have to write an advice columnist about how to solve this is pretty much proof of an intellectual vacuum.  She's be my candidate for Mother of the Year, except its' seems pretty much Casey Anthony's to lose.

[BillieTex]

Help the fellow to a gelding, and the fidelity issue will solve itself.  Thats what works with a tom cat!!

He he he. Me likey

[kate durcal]

Where was the mother 4 years ago? I would not allow my 19th years old to shack with any fellow, and if she dooes, then it is soemwherte else, not in house. Furthermore, since they ar living in my hoem, I will just tell the fellow to live.

Kate D