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Damn, just got Ma'amed

Started by Hurtfulsplash, July 21, 2011, 07:16:15 PM

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Hurtfulsplash

July 21, 2011, 07:16:15 PM
You've seen my pics and vids and I've passed 100% in all; I just got back from the restaurant and the waitress called me Ma'am loud and very pronounced, I was shocked and just didn't say anything, but it got me thinking, how do we deal with that, do we correct them or say nothing?
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~RoadToTrista~

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July 21, 2011, 07:21:46 PM
Only if you have a low voice. Then her reaction might be a little entertaining. :D
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Princess of Hearts

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July 21, 2011, 07:34:02 PM
Maybe she thought that you were an mtf, and she wanted to be nice?

I wonder if FTM's in the early and middle stages get taken for one of us?

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Hurtfulsplash

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July 21, 2011, 07:39:03 PM
Hmmm, I don't know, good point.
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Kelly J. P.

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July 23, 2011, 12:18:24 AM

... I'm not sure if this might be helpful, but when I was still in guy-mode I was "ma'am'd" a few times. Not with those words... usually it was "ladies." But I wasn't trying to pass then - for many of the times that happens, I wasn't even on hormones yet. Sometimes people get misgendered - for me, that was getting correctly gendered while in guy-mode. I would like to say that it happens quite a bit, including even those people who you wouldn't expect it to.

And for an honest mistake, the response depends on your character. Some people like to just say it plainly - "I'm a man!" Others might get snarky and say something sarcastic, or rude. Others still would probably just laugh. I would probably bow down in shame.  :P But ultimately, it's a much smaller deal to the non-victims of a misgendering. Making a scene or deal of it would probably be worse than either a polite correction, a self-contained giggle, or a blank, confused look.

If I don't bow my head in shame, I go for the blank, confused look.  ;D
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