Male pronouns without 'coming out'?

[Sam-]

I've only really discussed the trans thing with my one close friend. She is very supportive of me, and I know if I asked her to use male pronouns that she would. I'm no good at confrontational or deep conversation things at all, and that's probably the main reason I haven't discussed this with anyone else. What would be your opinion on just beginning to use male pronouns and hoping people catch on from that? Of course then I'd explain it a bit, but it seems easier than just randomly trying to bring it up...awkward. It's probably not the best idea, I know, but I need to make another step forward. I don't think it would be a surprise to anyone, really. Thoughts or alternate suggestions on what to do?

[JohnAlex]

I can totally understand how you feel here.  It was so hard for me to come out, because I'm such a shy and quiet person and I don't like attention on myself. and I'm also so not good with confrontational or deep convos either.

but when I did to when I finally had to come out because I was so miserable.  I told my sister.  because I knew she would be very supportive.  And, with my permission, she told a few people for me so I didn't have it.  She had no problem telling people that about me. 
And then the first few people I came out to, I told them through email or IM.  I know that sounds cowardly, but I was scared and I couldn't do it any other way.  And you got to do what you got to do.


But I think you could run into some problems if she just "apparently randomly" started calling you "he."  I think your family/friends might be like, "who are you talking about?"  And then she says "Sam."  and then they would respond, "Why did you say "he" then? Is there something we don't know?"
Basically, I think it could become very confrontational.

Another approach, if you want to come out to EVERYONE, just make it a status post on facebook.  I also did that recently   It went well.

[Sam-]

You guys have good points. And yeah, I am Sam legally (well shortened version..) and everyone calls me that. Using Facebook wouldn't be a terrible idea, I hadn't really considered that. That way I'm more detached from it and can get through to more people at once. And also have the time to think about how exactly I would phrase it..

I should probably bring it up in person to a few people first though, like my immediate family (I live with them and we're close) and friends I see often..I don't want them to feel hurt or anything by finding out that way. Ugh. I've been avoiding coming out because I don't want to hurt my mom, I'm sure it'll make her cry and I can't deal with that. That's why I was trying to find a way to just gradually make people get it instead of having to say it straight up.