(TL;DR version at the bottom if you don't want to read my incoherent rambling!)
I've been bouncing back and forth between the idea of being FtM or Androgyne for a while now. One might think I'm a transMAN because I identify as male but that's honestly because I like things simple. I don't like labels and don't feel the need to give myself one be it for my gender or sexuality. Maybe because I'm lazy, not really sure.
The problem is, I see myself as male. As in, my sex is (or to better explain it, I should be a cis-) male. My gender probably IS androgyne or gender queer, or fluid not entirely sure which because I haven't given it much thought. I enjoy going from presenting as male to female to androgynous and am fairly content with people giving me odd looks or calling me miss, or kid, or "umm..." but that doesn't change the fact that I'd like people to still know that I'm male. Does that make any sense? Like... I don't care if strangers have to guess I just wish my friends knew me as an androgynous guy. For example, my friend refers to me as a guy almost all the time, naked, in public, last night while I made him dinner in boxers and 6" heels (gotta break those babies in for a wedding this weekend!

) the only time he doesn't is around people from my past who don't know or don't care to know and will make me extremely uncomfortable. This is fine with me, when people in stores think I'm a girl that's also fine. But when it's someone I might see regularly, I'd prefer they'd use male pronouns if they have to use any which can be hard for them if they think I'm a girl- if they saw me naked or saw my license, it would be even more difficult to convince them otherwise.
I think it sounds like maybe my gender is also male and I just like presenting as different things and maybe that's the case. But the reason I put this here is because I'm wondering what other non-binary identifying people have done with their license or other forms of ID? I was seeing a therapist and it got nowhere, if anything I came out way worse (which always happened as a child but I wanted to give it another shot). Has anyone here talked to a therapist about changing their ID? I have noticed a fair number of people seem to identify more as one gender so did you/are you planning on changing your gender marker or if you are "completely" (can't think of a better way to phrase it) androgynous do you have any issues with showing people your ID? I think part of why I'm having these issues is because my therapist sounded like he had experience in this area but when I brought up letters to him and how essentially in my state it's up to my doctors how far I need to transition to have my gender marker changed (last I heard there was this huge thing about not needing "proof" of SRS- though I do want stop surgery so that wouldn't matter anyway) he would change the topic. I was at a stand still with him, I just wanted to know if I could, some day in the future, have my license say male, even though I probably am not FtM.
TL;DR
I'm not really looking for advice, just like to know what other people have done or thought of doing. If you identify more as one gender have you changed your license (or not changed) to show this? If you are androgyne or identify as anything other than male or female what have you done about this? There are certain situations where people are going to see your ID and depending on whether or not it shows what your sex is do you have any issues with showing people or contemplated getting it changed to something more fitting? It's just annoying hiding my license from people and I get horrible anxiety about that. I'm fine with people referring to me as female but when I here "Ooohhh... I THOUGHT you were a chick!" my heart breaks a little. I hope this makes some sense, reading it over I think I managed to confuse myself!