I really need to crack open a thesaurus and find some words other than "supportive". Everyone wants to be "supportive" of Mikael's transition from female to male, but I don't think any of them mean the same thing when they use the term.
The incident that really cast a spotlight on this was yesterday when I drove a friend home. Mikael and I are very early in the process: have not started hormones yet and had our first psychotherapy session earlier that day.
Our friend asked me what I thought about the changes we are contemplating, and how it would affect me as Mikael's spouse. I said that Mikael wanting these changes wasn't really a surprise to anyone that knew him, I was supportive, and that I had honestly given more thought whether or not to get a big fishtank for the house the year before. He has the advantage of being married to a bisexual man in a fairly open community, and I predict this change will be less dramatic for us than some other couples.
The friend replied, "I feel the same way. I'm against it, but will be supportive of anything she decides."
What?! Other than the use of the word "supportive", did anything I said sound similar to the opinion reflected back at me? I really want to go out and find two different words for supportive: one that means what I mean and one that contains his use of the word.