While I face and live my RLT everyday, so does my wife. Like me, she has had to make many adjustments, many as hard as mine. One of these is at her place of work, an internationally renowned University. Since going full time on Aug 8th, she has made the adjustment to referring to me as "she", and "her" etc... everywhere except at work. There she continued to refer to me as her husband, "he", "him", and "his". She has caught her self slipping up a couple of times by calling me "she". Although no one seemed to notice she was really upset with having to hide Stephanie. As my transition goes on my former self has completely disappeared, and my wife realised that the only way to get piece of mind at work was to come out to them.
We spoke for almost a whole week about this and she finally decided to approach her manager and reveal her secret. Before she did this she went to the University Human Rights Office to ensure what protections, laws and legislation's that the University had in place to protect her, and then while I while I was at an electro session, she stayed behind after work and discussed the whole thing with her manager.
My wife was very worried, but she shouldn't have been, her boss took the news well and reassured her that she didn't have to worry about a thing. She was so relieved and happy, and consequently has told many others in her office about Stephanie. Everyone seems to be taking the news OK and many have offered their support. Very similar to my coming out at work.
The biggest thing that she has noticed over all of this, is how she feels so much happier now that others know and she doesn't have to try and hide our secret anymore. Of course there will be those who will not agree or understand all of this but the fact that other now know have taken a great weight off her shoulders.
Yep I'm a lucky girl,
Steph