Quote from: V M on February 25, 2013, 04:52:48 AM
I think men just tend to be kinda bland and gals tend to like having pretties about, a bit more flowery so to speak
With respect I think it's much more complicated. I tend to see women, generally, trying to present an open image to the world trying to make their homes inviting. I think they generally try to make themselves look interesting and therefore desirable. (In a Darwinian sense)
But the female ego is so very fragile and more so, in western cultures where the male is seen as so important. Once they are hurt, it's very difficult for them to pick themselves up again.
Lesley talked about women living as pigs. I've noticed that women who maintain self confidence and optimism, tend to create presentations and environments to intice others or to invite some level of envy. So women, whose egos have been damaged early tend to have fewer expectations, reflected in their less enticing environments.
The western notion of males having weak egos is, I suggest, a myth. The male adolescence, if it progresses normally, seems to produce a surge in self confidence at around the mid teens. At this point, those females who are sufficient mature and fertile, tend to respond, massaging the egos of the most attractive males.
The less mature or less fertile females tend to be left at this point. The less desirable males tend to get pushed back much later, when their maturity is more able to deal with it than for the rejected females. Now on an evolutionary level, this could be so that these males can continue contributing to the group.
As successful men progress, their self confidence grows and they surround themselves with those aspects most important to them.
Just some random observations. No big deal really.
