@kyh, Thank you for your response. I also find it is invaluable for me to disassociate "ME" from the narrative. If I imagine someone else as being the recipient of my abuse the feelings seem to reduce. It is VERY difficult for me to recognize that I am targeting ME. If it were someone else it would be an entirely different matter. Again it is as if I am holding myself to an entirely different set of standards than I hold other people to. Am I "better" than anyone else so require different standards? Am I "above" the normal rules so require different parameters?
I am struggling with what my therapist has defined as a "double bind" scenario. Where no matter the outcome I cannot win. As in "I can't transition to female because society cannot accept my "femaleness", nor can I continue in my maleness, for that leads to suicide. This is something that I am becoming more and more able to recognize. In that recognition, I am able to interrupt my thought process and change the double bind into, if I am unable to accept my "maleness", I must be able to push the societal boundaries of gender to that of being able accept my "femaleness". In a moment of lucidity, society could give a "rat's-ass" about my gender identity, and it will continue as if I didn't even exist let alone what I thought about myself.
Thank you.
Christy.