Greetings from central New York. I've used these forums as a resource a few times in the past, but never got around to signing up. It looks like a wonderful space, however, and so I decided to join.
I'm a minor, so I won't be posting my age, although if it get a direct message/email I'll most likely give it, if there's a good reason (i.e. It's relevant to info, advice, etc.).
I'm still very much in the questioning stage. For a couple of years, I effectively convinced myself that I was transsexual (I'm born male), I came out to a girl I'd dated briefly (she broke up with me because she just wasn't ready for a relationship, due to family problems) and she completely and totally accepted me - it was wonderful. I started dating her again that very week, and our 1-year anniversary is coming up in November c:
But since then, I've come out to my parents. My mom was shocked, saying that she had never imagined i could be unsure about my gender. We talked for a while, both of us sort of in shock (her because of the news, me because telling her was something I had failed to have the courage to do for a year, and I couldn't believe I had actually done it) and then it became just so late that we needed to sleep. I hated the discussion to end that way, but it was necessary.
My dad had already been asleep, but when my mom went back to bed, basically he noticed that she was acting shaken, so he asked her what was wrong, and she told him what had happened.
So my mom came back to tell me that she told him, and i came downstairs to talk to them both about it.
During the course of that conversation, my dad, who is a cognitive psychologist, a physicist, and a mathematician, and very intelligent, gave a bunch of reasons why I shouldn't tell people, why I shouldn't transition, why I should at least wait on a decision until after puberty, etc.
Since then, I've started using the label genderqueer, although truly I feel as though I want to transition.
Anyway, that's a discussion for another thread (which I intend to start quite soon).
Tl;dr: I'm born male, I'm questioning (I identify currently as genderqueer, mostly because of my parents), I prefer female pronouns, although my parents don't use them, and I do use a chosen name, which currently is Luna.
Thanks
and I hope you all enjoy my presence as much as I already appreciate these forums!
